i am not sure , i understood anything. May be it could be because of formatting of this site. pardon me, if my understanding is incorrect and ignore completely. if i understand you are trying to give him 1 more chance. then i am sorry to say, you have lot of self confidence / self esteem issue. you need therapy . the advise from all ILs is very true, because lot have been married longer than you and seen various cycles in relationships. people don't change till they face consequences.