We are recent empty nesters. From last few years our marriage was going through lot of issues, mainly started when I started cutting off from his relatives. His take is you either get everyone or none including him. Currently living almost like housemates, each one have our own bedroom and work in there, sleep and spend all day there. We eat too whenever we feel alone. All these years, being busy with kids I guess the glaring differences were not as visible. I tried to renew relationship after dropping off kids as I felt it is a new phase in our lives, but he still holds the same stand. I guess he wants me to apologize, surrender myself to his relatives, give free hand to them on all our investments in India, open our house to slew of his guests and serve them here in US. I am ready to work on our relationship but not all this. He has always been financially irresponsible too, for him it doesn't matter if we lose all our savings as long as he can please his relatives. At this junction my options are 1) continue like housemates and hope one day he will realize the importance of wife 2)divorce and live single life 3) take an apartment in India for myself, quit work or find remote work and split time between US and India. With the 2nd option I feel my problem is having guts. I am financially secure and kids doing well by themselves. May need couple more years for them to settle and have solid careers so probably won't rock the boat till then. Though I feel kids marriages might be a problem if we divorce. I am also not sure of single life, atleast now even though we don't have any bonding we share responsibilities and atleast there physically when I am sick. With the third option I can give some excuse, not a big deal. Only thing I may have to stop working. Financially not a problem even if I stop. But I am not sure I want to do this early as in next two years. If I take this option, better to go when I can spend some time with parents and they are around, so no point delaying after kids settle in their lives. Any empty nesters facing similar situation?