What Happens When They Pass On

Dear OP
My heartfelt condolences to you.
As someone who has lost her parent a while back I can empathize and feel what you are going through and how disabling this phase of life is.
Get rid of the guilt.
A call to the ambulance and the driver's opinion doesn't matter.
Sometimes the best team of doctors is helpless.
Dear,
Grief is a long process.Like ripening of fruit.It takes time.But as time passes it effaces itself.
You will always miss your mom.
But I 'd say try ,that when you think of her ,it fills you with happiness of all that she shared with you rather than sorrow of her being gone.
It's too early.Eventually this will happen.Her happy memories will get you through.
We celebrate the legacy of our parents by living our lives in a way they would have wanted us to live.

 

As a person who also lost her mom, first off please accept my deepest condolences. Nothing that anyone says can ever make you feel "better". Will you ever "get over her"? Its been close to 7 years since my mom passed and there are so many days that I still cry inconsolably. Noone else can understand the grief and pain we experience unless they lost their mom with whom they shared an amazingly close bond. Grief never stops. It just comes in waves.

My mom meant the world to me. I would share the littlest of things that happened in my life with her. She was my closest friend and confidante. I lost my anchor and rock and my shield from the outside world when I lost her.

There are so many days even now that I remember her wise advice that rings true and holds good to this day. I have so many regrets about what I could have done to make her happier as a kid, fulfilled her dreams for me and I would give anything to just get back a few moments with her to tell her all this.

Hang in there, your loss is too fresh grief and pain too raw. I don't have any words of advice for you nor can I say it will get better with time. Just be strong and find a purpose to carry on with your life. Your mom would have wanted to not see you unhappy in your life. Take care.

 

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Dear sister @sociallifein30s
My deepest condolences that you lost your mom. But then think that God had other plans for her elsewhere where her presence for rendering service considered ideal by Him.
Mother in some form or other is around us always.
As iread this thread my eye turned moist and halfway i was reading your post through teary eyes.
As boxing day approach, I remember my beloved mother.

Ma, Me & Boxing Day

 

@sociallifein30s,

My heartfelt condolences for your loss. Time is a great healer. I will pray for you to heal as quickly as possible. A few pointers for assisting you to heal:

1) Your mom will expect you to heal quickly and lead a happy life despite her departure. What would pain her the most is you feeling miserable and guilty for not taking her to the hospital on time.
2) What the ambulance driver told is irrelevant. By requesting you uncle to get a tablet, you did what you thought would save her life.

3) Unless we are trained medical professionals, it is always hard to decide what is the right action to save a life. Besides our emotions take precedence over our discrimination.

4) There is nothing wrong in grieving for a prolonged period of time. It is the mind adjusting to a life without your mom. But work on building on the memories of wonderful time you spent with your mom. The grief is like a leaf or fruit that would fall off. But the pleasant memories of your mom is a like a tree with strong roots.

5) Philosophically, the memories of love showered by your mom is immortal and only the frame is mortal.

Frankly, you will do a great service to your mom by getting back to your normal and happy life as soon as possible.

 

It is natural . Threads of this type packed with emotional attachments always turn nostalgic, thought provoking and tear-jerking.
Regards.