Rock The Sahm Role ✌

AkilaMani · Sep 7, 2017

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Hi @AkilaMani
I feel so much emotional right now. I really look up to you Akila dear. I am so proud of you. Hope I can reach the same stage as you have right now. It is so inspiring. What a wonderful way of teaching the kids to struggle in front of them. Life's lessons. I have no words. I am just reading your post again and again and feeling so good. Challenging our comfort zones is very very scary but just challenging itself deserves loads of courage. Amazing post. Made my day today. Gives me lot of hope. Thanks dear.
@Bubbles
Hi dear. Wonderful tips from Akila. I used to study daily for an hour when my first kid slept in the night and early mornings. Try it out.

Thanks for your support dear. Seeing my baby learning and growing is really a pleasure . I never enjoyed my first kids infancy as I was stressed that time. This time it feels so good. But different set of problems.
My baby caretaker has taken extended leave... so I seriously need to think if I have to search someone. And my dentist who was working in my clinic has rushed back to her native due to her family medical emergency so again need to think. So, I have called mom to help me out here. Managing clinic and home with a small baby. Finding very tough. Stopped Yoga Praying for my situation to improve.
Guilt killing me on one side when I am away from baby for extended periods of time. Ignoring elder kid completely. Poor kid is not even complaining. Next week, hubby going abroad. Ah ! Life gets tough sometimes.
I have started loving the phrase " this too shall pass " especially at rough times. I wish we could fast forward these times.
Lots of love,
Cliona
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@cliona

I am glad you find my post inspiring dear. You have too much on your plate right now and it is natural to get overwhelmed. Do look for another caretaker. Don't worry excessively about the older child. She will be fine. Just ensure that whenever you are talking to her, give her your full attention, and always hug and kiss her whenever she is near you. Sometimes we don't realise that the child is near us because of our preoccupations. The physical touch is very important for young children, even when they are teens. I see it in my children. The younger one more readily comes into my lap and arms, but the older one does not. But she likes it a lot when I hug and kiss her. They are still kids inside an adult-looking body. You are a long way from having teens, but do remember this

Its ok that you are unable to find time for yoga now. You will get back into it again soon. Don't worry. Take care dear.

AkilaMani · Sep 7, 2017

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Hey girls,

Nice to see ur updates. Hugs to u all. women are experts in multitasking. So keep rocking girls.

Yes akila, kudos to ur efforts of setting an example for kids. Me too have joined a painting class, drawing class. My passion. Did a few also, came in a magazine in closed circle.

Store room to pooja room , . My store room converting into my art studio.

As kids and DDs are going to sabarimalai, around 20 Sep, v r in rigorous fasting. Me and hub , one meal a day. Kids only home made food, nothing from outside. No maid for this 41 days . so I have grouped my work from morning 5 to 9.30 , one group of work and evening 5 to 10 next round. Including sweeping mopping, folding , drying clothes, pressing clothes, kids studies, cooking, etc. Afternoon 2.30 to 4 or 5 I take good rest rather stretch. need to give rest for my back. Morning 10 to 12. 30 and night 9.30 to 11 or 11.30 I utilize for my drawing, painting art work, reading and writing , browsing, preparing some notes for kids etc.

So now I feel I am balancing everything, I am satisfying my wishes without compromising on regular demanding house works.

have wonderful days ahead girls.
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Sarah,

You are amazing dear. Painting and drawing practice even during such busy schedule! kudos dear!

Store room into art studio is a fantastic idea. having a separate space for our passion will spur more energy and creativity as there will be no distraction. Great !!

cliona · Sep 7, 2017

Thanks so much @AkilaMani
Your words are very soothing to me. With all this support, I think I can overcome my problems and phases. And I also want to support girls who go through like this with my experiences .....in IL ..in future and show my gratitude to you guys.
Stay blessed.
Cliona

AkilaMani · Oct 3, 2017

Hi Cliona,
How are you? hope things have settled down by now. The past few weeks had been quite busy for me, so couldn't drop by this forum. I was busy with Navrathri celebrations and also kids exams are about to begin. My music lessons and practice are going well. Last month I couldn't go to the Toastmasters. I will go this month.

Take care dear

cliona · Oct 3, 2017

Hi @AkilaMani
Thanks for updating about you. I feel so much loved .Like I say, I ll feel a lot of hope that truly one day things will return to" normalcy ".
Thanks for prodding me to msg here instead of me pushing myself into deep Wells. Things are slowly settling I guess. I am not even sure if it's settling. Huge story !
My baby caretaker came back a month ago and I fired her. It so happened that I spotted a 2.5 inch long intact undigested green leaf in the potty of my baby. Imagine my horror.... and all the 'what thoughts. The lady takes my baby for walks everyday. On questioning she says she doesn't know anything. Even now my eyes are wet while I am writing this.
Only God has saved me. I have no words to thank him. I was very much shook by this incident. I was having lot of anxiety. So left clinic for few days. Called back my mom again. And started working. Now one more caretaker is coming. Baby took sometime to adjust. Still I'm worried.
Yesterday mom went back.
Good thing in all these is that inspite of holiday season, clinic is running successfully. But I am very irregular.
Lots and lots of love,
Cliona

AkilaMani · Oct 5, 2017

Hi @cliona
That is horrifying!! I am sorry that this happened. I can understand the anxiety and panic dear. Now, she is gone. Try and relax. How is this new caretaker? You can install CC cam in your house if you want. Many working moms do here. They have 24 hr access. I know it is a pain to monitor and constantly worry, but CC cams usually discourage maids/caretakers from trying anything funny. This is not to scare you dear, just a suggestion.

Hope and pray that this caretaker is a good one. My cousin sis has a caretaker for her 1 year old, who is such a nice lady. The baby is so attached to her and she is very devoted to the child.

Take care dear.

cliona · Oct 25, 2017

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Hi @cliona
That is horrifying!! I am sorry that this happened. I can understand the anxiety and panic dear. Now, she is gone. Try and relax. How is this new caretaker? You can install CC cam in your house if you want. Many working moms do here. They have 24 hr access. I know it is a pain to monitor and constantly worry, but CC cams usually discourage maids/caretakers from trying anything funny. This is not to scare you dear, just a suggestion.

Hope and pray that this caretaker is a good one. My cousin sis has a caretaker for her 1 year old, who is such a nice lady. The baby is so attached to her and she is very devoted to the child.

Take care dear.
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hi @AkilaMani
Baby has adjusted to new caretaker well. He has developed fever due to tonsils since yesterday so sleepless nights are back. We did ayush homa for the baby in moms place on Sunday which was one good news I wanted to share here.
How are the other SAHMs ? Please write here. I will feel a lot supported emotionally just by reading your posts.
Lots of love
Cliona

cliona · Oct 25, 2017

Also I have another problem. My husband and mil can't tolerate baby urinating on the sheets. They keep scolding him and me for this all the time. I am very frustrated with this behaviour. I have tried calmly explaining them, scolded them .... but they are always critical and force me to put diapers which is very difficult thing for me to do.... I try my best to keep water proof sheets always. He easily develops diaper rashes. So, I put diapers only during nights.
Please help
Cliona

blueFlower · Oct 25, 2017

Hi @cliona , im a expecting mum with a toddler. I just came across this thread and read the last few posts. I work currently but gonna take break/quit (not sure) after Jan.

Putting diapers only in the night is fine. I also used to put only in nights, this will help both the baby and us to have a peaceful sleep. Plus if the baby is left unnoticed in wet bed for long then this will cause cold, etc. I had put diapers for my kid till he learnt to get up and go to the bathroom.

I would like to know how u ppl have passed the preggers stage with a demanding kid and house work. I will also look up to this thread once my baby is born and how should I manage the new baby, elder kid and household work... ladies will you guide me thru this ?

cliona · Oct 26, 2017

Hi @blueFlower
Congratulations on your pregnancy.
I feel pregnancy will be the easiest part . Post pregnancy also initially you will be able to manage. As the baby grows, you will definitely need some help. All said and done, you will go through a lot of challenges. Be mentally prepared for all these. Think about possible challenges and solutions. Talk in advance to your husband for his support . Let him be ready to give a helping hand. This time, you will be comfortable at taking care of newborn. But again it's going to be juggling act.
All the best,
Cliona