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Would You Give A Friend Unsolicited Advice?

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  1. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    In real life, to fairly close friends, would you give advice without it being sought? On topics like job choice, parenting, house maintenance, money, grooming, or any other habits, life events, decisions.

    The question is about fairly close friends in real life. Not about colleagues, spouse, relatives or online friends.
     
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    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    I will go first! : )

    I have done this sometimes, with the best of intentions, but mostly it has ended badly. Not much use to the recipient. So, my general resolution is to avoid it.
     
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    Learnt my lesson not to give any advice!
     
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    MalStrom IL Hall of Fame

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    No. A big part of the reason my close circle is close is that we MOOB.
     
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    Real life friends, are mostly colleagues, well, I don't give advice, because we all have become friends as we all have similar values and so no advice sought or given. Other real life friends, who aren't colleagues, also maintain distance and so good for all of us. No had no problems, touch wood, because we all know our space and so good to be like that.

    That makes a whole lot of difference, and so have been able to maintain cordial friendship because of that.

    But I am one, who would maintain distance in real life friendship and that makes me difficult to become really close to anyone. But in that way, I can maintain friendship for a long time for years without any problem, as all will help at times of need, because we know each other better.
     
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    iyerviji IL Hall of Fame

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    No dear I never give advices , if they seek my advice then will try to give and dont like youngsters advising me in some things not in everything. Some close friends are there who give advice always, which irritates me
     
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    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Hee hee Viji, thread unearthed one thing that irritates the unflappable you. :)

    Back later to respond to other responses.
     
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    Akanksha1982 IL Hall of Fame

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    No. I don't give unsolicited advice. If someone asks, then I give them my opinion, talking about pros and cons. Also, I don't like people giving me advice.
     
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    I have given some unsolicited advice and found later they continued with what they were
    doing. So, lesson learnt and now i avoid giving any advises unless sought for:disappointed:
     
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    I dnt like to give anything unless asked... So probably no !

    Unless I clearly see a life hanging situation :)
     
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