With love and patience nothing is impossible

Hello Vijima

the first post i replied to you in which i compare each and everything with my similar situation.

The previous post i read and commented reminded me of my grandparents this post reminds me of my parents.You said your hubby is very economic whereas you love to spend.SAme my dad is toooooo economic whereas my mom wants to buy and use any thing she sees.

Yeah adjustment is very much necesarry but in my family day by day dad became tooooooooooooooooooo economic and mom tried to adjust but in vain and got fed up.

If you have love trust and adjustment also if the partner does not understand then life will be hell.

Male chauvinism plays a major role in many families.

Many basic things also males dont understand they want their wife do all the household chores the way she was with energy and enthusiasm at the age of 25 how is it possible at the age of 45?????they dont understand the medical changes and weakness of the body.There are few exceptions.

I feel adjustment could be done only to a certain extend.
The partner should also co operate otherwise one gets fed up.

Co operation is more important factor which is ruined by ego in many families.

But in your life it worked out I am happy for that.

 

I accept with this 200%
and adjustment never sounds like an adjustment when it is for our loved ones..
i always love being submissive in some cases and adjusting for my loved ones..
ofcourse not completely..
nor my loved ones let me completely throw me down for them..
lucky me i have a good balance and adjustment and understanding in all my relations

 

Dear Viji,
Another thought provoking post from you.you have beautifully narrated the ways to lead a happy married life.
you are correct. Patience can win so many things.Patience with others is Love, Patience with self is Hope, Patience with God is Faith.Patience serves as a protection against wrongs as clothes do against cold.L ove, Hope, and Patience, these must be thy graces,
And in thine own heart let them first keep school.nice post.
with love
pad

 

Love is nothing:to be loved is something.Liked this words which is the basis for my life.Without adjustment nothing is possible,in either place.Am so lucky to have an adjustable hubby.He in turn says that am a most forbearance wife.With my patience moulded my shapeless hubby into triple-crown person.Myself also got corrected by him in many manners..Its a mutual understanding which brings succees in marriage life.Can make impossible matters into possible factors with love & patience.

Viji Ma!!!! Do come everyday with topics like this.
Thanks for bringing up this fact here.

 

Dear viji aunty,

Yet another nice and interesting post...I always love to read your posts because in each and every post you give some message from your life and some advices for us....

As you said, my DH is also economic, he knows when to spend and where to spend, so I have learnt a lot from him I should say.... ...with mutual understanding and adjustments, we can make the relationship more strong and lead a more happy and peaceful life....

 

Love and patience can move the mountains...

mutual understanding is the main ingredient in a successful marriage...

I am very strong person, dh is also one. but somewhere we do give space to the other person to move (you remember the story of the two goats on either side wanting to cross at the same time..these days the story goes one goat sat down and allowed the other goat to climb and cross..and in the process both cross the bridge..without falling into the river:idea).

I used to not like certain veggies but dh loved those, i learnt to eat them, and dh learnt to relish what i loved. so accepting to do things for our loved ones is the success rather than us foregoing in the name of sacrifice for our loved ones...

when it comes to spending dh is lavish i am too frugal (smart spender)..illanna balance irukaathu...


good topic...

 

Hi Viji Aunty,

Thanks for the beautiful post.

A postive mindset is key to personal happiness. The same adjustment can be viewed in multiple ways. As long as either partner views it as "love and patience" there will be no hard feelings in the long term. On the other hand if the same is viewed as compromise it can cause hard feelings in the long term. Endurance and smart management of emotions also help. A short memory of the othes faults also helps .

Thanks again.