i have been thru two incidents in my family that makes me write this post.. one was a cousin who was in a relationship for 5+ years, who was silently blackmailed by his family to forego his choice, to marry the girl they chose.. the trauma this cousin went thru, i have seen it personally, i can never describe it in words the second situation was a bit better, where another cousin literally fought a battle with his parents to marry the girl of his choice.. so, the word love marriage has still a taboo associated with it in india.. the most common one being family opposition.. the reason may be change from household to household.. mostly it is based on socio eco status, caste and religious basis.. even if the family accepts, in only few cases they do it happily.. in most cases (atleast in the ones i have seen) the child has to face lot of emotional blackmail, silent treatment, threats and so on.. with changing times, the acceptance levels have increased but my question is would u actively encourage ur child to fall in love and get married to his/her choice? i would like to raise my child to be mature enough to decide whether she is in love or not and whether she/he wants to take the relationship to the next level by marriage.. i would rather not doubt her maturity in choosing her future spouse.. if i doubt, it will b like doubting my own upbringing.. so to sum up, i would say that parents shud concentrate more on moulding their child into a mature adult who can take responsible and confident decisions reg marriage.. trying to force some one in their lives against their choices makes them loose their self esteem and confidence. and those wounds turn into big scars also, if the child despite being mature makes a misjudgement in her spousal choice, i would not punish her saying "u deserve this.. rather that shud be taken as an opportunity to nurture her, let her heal and grow back into a stronger person than before !!" so the question is not abt merely accepting love marriages so what are ur views on actively encouraging ur child to marry for love.. and if yes, how and if no why?