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Why God is testing us

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by iyerviji, Apr 10, 2010.

  1. iyerviji

    iyerviji Finest Post Winner

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    The best thing to learn in life is to compromise because it is better to bend a little than to break a loving relationship

    As long as we dont forgive people who hurt us, they occupy a rent free space in our mind.

    Though my two daughters have adopted a girl child each and I am happy with them, but when I hear anyone saying that their daughter or dil is pregnant I get very depressed that why God has not given an opportunity for my daughters and dil to become a mother. They must be also feeling sad that they are not able to become a mother.

    Dont know why God is testing us so much and why He is testing us. Have we done lot of pap in last birth. Today also I had gone for a function and was happy to hear that my cousin's dil is pregnant and at the same time felt sad that why my dil is not able to give the good news. On the top of it my another cousin was asking whether they dont want a child. What a question to ask. Will there be anyone who does not want a child . Some ladies dont know how they hurt others by asking such a question. Since their children have got the opportunity of becoming mothers fast without waiting for it, they dont know the feelings of others.

    Hope atleast for my son God will give a natural child.
     
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  2. veni_mohan75

    veni_mohan75 Platinum IL'ite

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    அன்புள்ள விஜி மா,

    நல்லவர்களை ஆண்டவன் எப்போதும் சோதிப்பான். நல்லவன் ஒருவன் இருக்கையில் அவனை மேலும் மெருகேற்ற அவன் பல சோதனைகள் செய்வான்.

    உளி கொண்டு செதுக்கும் போதுதான் அழகிய சிற்பம் உருவாகும். என்னை ஏன் செதுக்குகிறார்கள் என சிற்பம் வேதனைப்பட்டால் அது கல்லாகத்தான் கடைசி வரை இருக்க முடியும். பட்டை தீட்டத் தீட்டத் தான் வைரம் ஜொலிக்க முடியும்.

    பல புராணங்களில், அசுரர்களாக வரும் அனைவரும் ஏதோ பிழைகள் செய்த தேவர்கள் தான். ஆண்டவன் அவர்களுடன், என்னையே வழிபட்டு, என் புகழ் பாடி நூறு ஜென்மங்கள் கழித்து என்னை வந்து சேர்கிரீர்களா இல்லை என்னை நிந்தித்து பத்து ஜென்மங்களில் என்னை அடைகிறீர்களா?? என்று கேட்டால் அவர்கள் சீக்கிரம் அவன் பாதம் சரண் அடையும் வழியைத்தான் தேர்ந்தெடுப்பர். உங்களுக்கு தெரியாதது இல்லை. தேவர்களுக்கே அந்த நிலை எனில், மனிதர்களுக்கு?????

    ஆண்டவன் தேர்வு, அற்புதமான விடைகளை நமக்குத் தரும் அம்மா.
     
  3. iyerviji

    iyerviji Finest Post Winner

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    Dear Veni

    Thank you for the first and loving fb. Let me wait patiently . True He knows what is right and when to give , what.

    love
    viji
     
  4. veni_mohan75

    veni_mohan75 Platinum IL'ite

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    Your are 100% correct maa. When we are praying God, we should not demand him anything, I am being honest to you, and you know things better, what to give me when. You do as you wish nu" That is "saranadaithal".

    He will take care of us ma.
     
  5. Soldier

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    Dont worry Viji Aunty. God's delays are not his denials. I am confident your DIL would shortly declare the good news to you.

    You know my cousin (Mumbai) conceived after 10 years of marriage, just before her younger sister got married. So don't lose heart. You will surely become a granny once again shortly.

    Forget those who hurt feelings by their unwarranted questions.
     
  6. shivachoubey

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    Dear Viji,

    A woman never becomes a mother from giving birth but she becomes a mother by loving from heart. According to me you daughter and daughter in law are great women who have decided to adopt.

    The society will be much more better if we decide to adopt a child each. Every child deserves to be loved and great are women who adopt and shower their love to orphans. I highly respect such people.

    Viji what will you call Yashoda, she is a great symbol of motherhood but was Krishna her child, No.

    Next time when people ask you questions, tell them you already have grandchildren whom you love alot.

    Be happy and proud for your daughter and DIL. They have done such a good thing and ofcourse lot of punya too.

    Not having a child is insignificant. What matters is power of a woman to nourish a life. What matter is power of a woman to water a young plant and see it flourish in a lovely green tree standing tall and proud even in strong winds.

    What matters is the power to love.

    A mother is not someone who gives birth, a mother is a woman who loves with great force that can even challenge the universe.

    Your daughter and DIL are great phenomenal women feel proud for them and not sad.
    regards
     
  7. iyerviji

    iyerviji Finest Post Winner

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    Dear Mallika

    Thank you so much for your encouragement and for coming here even in your busy schedule. The person who hurt me does not know my feelings as she has gone through my situation. Thats why she must have asked like this. Hope your words come true and I hear the good news soon

    love
    viji
     
  8. iyerviji

    iyerviji Finest Post Winner

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    Dear Shiva

    Thank you very much for your loving fb. My two daughters have adopted a child and I am waiting for my dil to conceive. Thanks for the appreciation.

    love
    vii


     
  9. Arunarc

    Arunarc Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Viji
    I know what you are going through dear.
    But why can't you think this way that your dd and dil has got an opporunity to look after those kids who don't even have parent's for them self. He knows that mother's without kids of they own has more love to give so He wants them to shower all the mother's love to these kids who are hungry for that.
    How many of us get this opportunity to do so......
    Now if you will consider myself even if I want to adopte a kid I will thing twice is it neccessary to do so. At the most what will I do I will go to some orphage and give them some money for the education or for food and shelter. But cannot give that motherly love to them. To do this I need to have a big heart for this.
    My dear Viji when next time when someone come to you ask you such stupid questions just tell them yes God doesn't want them to have kids becoz He want's my children to takecare of His kids.
    Don't feel bad for anything Viji. Lord is looking at everything that we are doing. All don't get this type of opporunity. By showing love on other's kids your DDs are doing a great job. I really slaute those mother's who takecare of other's kids as they own.
     
  10. ShailRaghuvansh

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    Dear Viji,

    The good Lord only knows what we need and when we need it. And being the nice people that you all are, be rest assured that whatever God does, it is justice.

    We may see it as denial because as humans the natural tendency is to compare. But it is not necessary that those who become natural mothers are always happy and those who have adopted children are kept in denial. The love and affection that a child (who is not biologically yours) who is taken into your wing without questions builds up good karma which not only gives a lot of satisfaction, you also help society. And such acts never go unrewarded by the Almightly.

    Don't doubt His ways and you will find that you are content with what you have instead of aspiring for more.


    God bless you and your family.
    Shail:)
     

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