When I read the post I'm really surprised. I came from a community whose main occupation is mostly business, gifting gold and valuables are not only for pride but also considered as investment. I'm in my early 40s my dh studied abroad, didn't insist any thing so my parents gave little bit lesser than my elder sister we both didn't care as we knew our parent's economic position and also the fact they are loving both of us equally (we are also 2 daughters). this happened before 15 years. My maternal grand pa had 4 daughters and a son who is younger than 3 sisters than last one is 4th daughter. My mom and periamma got married in late 40s and early 50s. For my periamma my grandpa did lavish wedding with lot of gold and silver, grand 3 day wedding. then after a year he had heart attack got bed ridden using this opportunity his partner cheated him, had heavy loss. at this time mom's engagement was already done, since my uncle was young studying in school my periamma and periappa pitched in took initiative with their jewels and savings and conducted the marriage. (it was not as grand as my periamma's but everyone was happy). then after 2 years both son in laws pitched in and helped my grandpa who was little bit recovered at that time did the marriage of my chithi(3rd one). for fourth one, my uncle finished his studies helped my grandpa in his business they were doing financially well still had debts so my periappa and my dad decided to help my grandpa, since the groom was my periappa's relative. they decided to conduct a grand wedding then my chithappa(dh of 3rd daughter) made huge issues comparing the amount of gold and silver given to his wife. My periamma and my mom called them for lunch and talked to with all the relatives from my mom's side explained this is the current norm and he also happily participated, pitched in for silver articles. If they can do it 30 years back then why can't daughters from this age with so much education are behaving like this with their parents. Come on girls have some gratitude for your parents.