Who Is Right And Who Is Wrong?

1. No one is wrong in that story.
2. The so called Intelligent "doctor" and her "doctor" is wrong.
3.Nothing wrong in this story.. only she has to understand mariagge is not the purpose of every women.

All the best

 

1) If there is a specific request about health issues and it is intentionally not revealed, then, it is outright wrong. However, if information is shared voluntarily expecting other to do so, may be an expectation than anything else. If a sibling has a genetic defect, it doesn't necessarily mean the children will have genetic defect. Moreover, even if one comes to know about it earlier (before marriage), what one could have done to overcome that? Especially, infertility issues come up only after a marriage and our culture has not advanced as yet to have children before marriage. If a man or woman is facing infertility found out after the marriage, does one blame the other for not revealing that before marriage? I am glad the child's problem is resolved well even if it involves medical intervention and some expenses. Every child has some problem or the other during childhood and it is hard to chronicle everyone of them unless one is suffering everyday of life.

2) If Dr. Z has conveyed his intention to separate from Mrs. Z earlier before Dr. Z and Dr. F are romantically involved, the situation is different than the romantic involvement resulting in Dr. Z conveying his intention to divorce. This is not clear in the question. It is the duty of Dr. F to ensure that the marriage is dissolved before mentally engaging with Dr. Z. Arguing that it is impossible to leave Dr. Z knowing well that he was married and not divorced is not an action that is acceptable.

3) There is no point in brooding after the fact. She needs to learn to forgive herself instead of regreting that for life. She needs to move on and expand her search outside her narrow territory. She will find someone who will be happy to marry her if she is positive. I am glad she is open about her earlier romantic involvement. Even people reject her for that, someone will definitely like her straightforward approach.

 

This is completely my opinion..

1) Husband at fault

2)F and Z.

3) The story seems incomplete and no fault as of now.She is being Human by missing someone she loved that’s all.

 

1) It is awkwardly in present day arranged marriages to talk about delicate details directly. In the good old days the CIA/KGB-worthy network of grandmothers and other elders would have ferreted out all pertinent details before any match was arranged.
Ear and dental issues are things someone may not feel is necessary to be disclosed as these can be managed. Depression is also not necessarily hereditary so they may not have felt like sharing mental health struggles publicly especially of the husbands father. If it were a condition like schizophrenia then it should have been disclosed.
The genetic defect is also a slippery slope. Were they aware that it could be carried to the nephew? I don’t know what the state of genetic counseling is like in India.

2) The couple conducting the affair is solidly in the wrong. The wronged wife is acting out of desperation and pride is probably the last thing she is thinking about. She is frantically trying to save her marriage. If my child behaved as a homewrecker I certainly would not blindly support them or condone their behavior. I would tell them that I was ashamed of them and they needed to do the right thing.
I’m also surprised that this couple is playing with fire. In many hospitals in the US such relationships will cause both the offending parties to be fired or severely disciplined if this behavior comes to light or someone files a complaint.

3) The girl did nothing wrong. She had a relationship which did not work out. It is not the singular event that defines the rest of her life. If any potential partners are using that as a reason to not pursue an alliance then they are not the right matches. She should be confident and have faith in herself.

 

1. Wife n her family is wrong. They did not do thorough investigations in an arranged marriage setup before hand. If the sibling had a defect, how could it be hidden. Atleast 2 or 3 vists are done to n fro both houses before the wedding , and how was this genetic defect not observed by anyone in girls family before the marriage. She had no right to believe a stranger 100% before the wedding. Is the girl working? I guess not as otherwise even should have not disclosed her skin issue before marriage as it is not something major.
2. F and Z are wrong. They should not have forgotten their marital status. The extra good qualities written for F doesnt seem true. If it was , the values would have prevented her from falling in love with Z.
3. Girl is wrong in the sense she is still getting updates about her ex which is none of her business now. She split with her ex because of the religious differences and there is no point now in checking about the marital status of her ex.