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Nothing like that exists. It’s going to be obvious she’s from the US. Why do you want to disrupt your daughter’s life like this?

 

Didn’t you say you and your parents are US citizens?

 

Where did I say you were ruining your child’s life? I said it will cause a disruption. And people on visas may not have a choice so their situation is not the same as yours.

 

I agree with others that a sudden change in your kids life at this stage may not have a good impact on your kid the way you prefer. Educational system and approach in India is very different and highly competitive. Are you considering moving back to India with all your family. Its not going to be easy, especially as the equation with kid / H is not very good, based on your post. Are you ready to commit 100%. Still its going to be very challenging to you and your dd. But it wont solve the issues you mentioned before. You need to build a happy peaceful and free environment for your kid so that there is proper communication, but I feel its lacking.

A few families, I know moved back to India, their kids are fine as they are young <7yr. But, in my friends case, younger kid was ok, bit elder one 11 y was not all happy and was struggling a lot... So I feel, you should assess all pros and cons.
In india too most kids have phones and moving back wont change it. So, you need to come up with effective ways to modulate it and build a good relationship with your daughter. First step is to start listening, then communicating in a calm tone, there are tools to limit it screen time. Too much criticism, negative approach etc drive them away. Add password to tablet so she has to approach you to start it , limit time using apps, if its PC, you can set up automatic shutdown in PC, there are tools by which you can control all screens or devices in your home using mobile. I noted your other post too. So, focus on building effective communication. In my experience, creating a comfort zone help them to open up, still at this stage these changes are expected. All we can do is to guide them and let them understand that we love them, but we don't support bad behavior.

 

What do you think is the worst that could happen here? Sure the 11 yr old struggled in your example, but is that so bad. How is she now

 

Only OP knows her plans. I mentioned good cases too. Note easy to adjust especially with language, accent, social system, bullying etc.. Thats why a great support system, a comfortable home with freedom to express is needed. Some kids can adjust well but it depends on the personality of kid. We need to respect our kids and consider then as individuals with their own brain and mind. When they are in teens they are in a transitioning stage. If we cant understand our own child who will do that for them?

Worst is depression.


I noted this post from a teens point of view confirming views expressed here

https://www.reddit.com/r/ABCDesis/comments/jaykxa/did_anyone_here_move_to_india_as_a_teen_and_hate/