Dear IL friends, Marriage is not just coming together of two individuals. There is much more to it. To sustain a marriage it is important that there is effort from both sides to carry on. A successful marriage is like a good recipe whose main ingredients are love, commitment, understanding, concern and togetherness. If we include these aspects in our married life we can find happiness in marriage. When we talk about mental compatibility between husband and wife we have seen that not only in case of arrange marriage this problem exist where both of them were unknown to each other before marriage but even after many years of courtship in love marriages this problem exist because when we meet before marriage we are at our best to impress the other person. And we start accepting each other the way we like to see each other. But gradually after marriage when we slip into our natural self that time we have to accept each other as we are. And in most of the cases the real self is not what we wanted to see and then begins the contradiction with the person whom we have loved and with whom we have to spend life. So it's important that if you love a person love him or her the way he or she is and not the way you want him or her to be. Then you can be happy. A happy married life calls for constant commitment and concern for each other. There are few small and minute aspects, which we have not to forget in our married life, as we get busy with the daily chores. So at times it is important to indulge in those minute details of a married life, which will constantly remind each other of the love and concern being present. Barnett Brickner, said that "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate." with regards more on this subject from my loved one IL friends, "