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what is harmless flirting?

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  1. nemesis

    nemesis Platinum IL'ite

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  2. guesshoo

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    Just being nice to people of the opposite gender(or the same depending on which way you roll) - complimenting their clothes, paying attention to what they say, sharing jokes(I don't mean off-colour ones!) and well, a bit of eye contact too, I guess. It remains harmless for as long as it remains strictly platonic.

    Thats my take on it. Why the question, Nemesis? What are your thoughts?
     
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    nemesis Platinum IL'ite

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    All these can be considered 'friendly behavior'.

    I don't have a take, lol, not that i am trying something, just curious how people walk on the knife.
     
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    Harmless flirting is a kind of flirting with disaster ...
     
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    it is indeed just that! I suppose it happens when two people click and pay just a tad more attention to each other than they do to the rest of the world...
    Fine line that!

    I find it interesting to observe group dynamics just for this! Very entertaining...

    oh! It is only harmless as long as it's platonic. And then, there are these things they call emotional affairs - a branch of this tree, I guess!
     
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    When I flirt with your girlfriend it's harmless.
    When you flirt with my girlfriend it's harmful.
     
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    its just a cover-up
     
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    At work place, it is like getting older together.......

    It is usually a small team and their bonding is stronger.

    .....staying longer to meet the deadlines, covering for each others error, teaming up 'powwow' before the major reviews, holding seats together at office auditorium, the corner table at office parties, this crowd (smart/workaholic) works only on major projects, the gang chooses their manager, productivity is higher, the entire org envy them......

    It is just like in school, no difference other than the age/status. Regardless of age, culture, race, gender, there is something holding us stronger..........

    I see the same thing in our IL forum.
     
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    For people in relationships, there is no such thing.

    Flirting implies special attention paid to a member of the opposite sex (or same sex, if that's the way you "roll" - thanks, GH) because of some real or feigned attraction.

    If you would not say or do those things with colleagues or whomever of the same sex, then it's not harmless.

    You know what they say about wedding rings - they're designed to cut off your circulation ;)
     
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    What I meant was 'harmless flirting' happens more in a group setting rather than at one-one basis.

    When it happens one-one, it will be at the next level.
     
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