What Happens When They Pass On

I am so sorry for what you are going through.

 

I’m not going to say anything to invalidate your pain because it’s yours and unless we went through something similar, we can’t empathise. I’m just very sorry for what you are going through and will suggest maybe sharing your thoughts to a therapist. I’m sure logic tells you that it’s not your fault but your heart will feel otherwise. My thoughts are with you ❤️

 

Sociallife, my deepest sympathies to you. You are grieving and processing your feelings. This is completely natural. Do whatever gives you relief. Continue to write out your feelings in a journal or express them to your siblings and father. This is how we process such life changing events so there’s nothing wrong with you.

For my own mother it’s been over ten years now. It got better in the sense that I’m now able to function and take decisions etc but that hollow feeling of missing her never quite goes away. This is another facet of life. Take it as another life experience. Each experience is a gift and brings its own new understandings of nuances, deeper or fresh realizations about ourselves and what really matters. Even in their going away both my parents left these irreplaceable gifts for me which enabled me to grow and mature further. From our beloved parents who sincerely love and wish the best for us we will receive only such positives - only blessings and auspicious things. I have come to firmly believe this.

I am sure it will be same for you. Hang in there and I hope it gets better for you.

 

Please accept my heart felt condolences. I have no words, except giving you a tight virtual hug.
This too shall pass!

 

Please accept my heartfelt condolences @sociallifein30s
Losing a parent is always tough! They are the only ones who know you inside out.

Yes! She is watching you. She is with you. She wants you to be always happy.

She lives in you.
Every moment your mom is speaking to your inner self.
The decisions you make are her teachings, the words you speak are her words, the actions you take are taught by her, the way you cook or dress up have her influences, your attitude is a reflection of her attitude.

She lives on inside you, she lives on through you. So, whenever you miss her, look inside yourself. You will find her answering your call with love.
I hope you will soon be able to think of her with a smile!

HR

 

So, looks like your presumption or assumption or guess is that if you have called the ambulance , you could have saved her. Seems logical but this may be or may not be the case. Because many heart attacks just takes less than few minutes for people to collapse. And for elder people there are complications even after resusication. Heart attack is the one that took away your mothers life , so dont feel guilty about it. Not many people get a chance in the golden hour.

 

Dear Soc
only who have gone through this can feel the pain, same similar situation in my case, her last call was to me , we spoke for nearly half an hr which I would do almost daily, she was my best friend, though I wont get any solutions to my problem but sharing with her would given me immense relief , sharing every silly things to serious one's had become my usual ritual, not a single day would pass without hearing her voice, but that was the last day I heard her voice never had I imagined that would be the last, next day morning she collapsed with severe heart attack , she passed away even before we sisters could reach her, its been two years now, I cannot express what I am going through, the void, the emptiness will be there till the end of my life, all I can say we have to deal with this coz that is life..