What do you think... - Poll for June 19th to June 25th, 2005

In my opinion 1 and 2 years after marriage is a reasonable gap to plan for the first kid. This would give a good time gap to then plan the second!!

Also, by 1 to 2 years the partners can know each other to an extent and handle the differences between them and would be more mature to handle a third one - the kid's preferences.

 

I would say 1-2 years. But it also depends on when you get married. A friend of mine got married when she was 24 and waited 4 years to have kids.

 

Its very subjective to one's circumstances ...like if you live with your family or are alone with your partner. like i have been married for 2 years and am planning to go for a baby before completing 3 years of marriage.

 

Ideal to have a kid between 1 and 2 years after marriage. By this time, the partners would have had enough time for themselves and would be prepared to give their time for the kids.


I also agree with Ashna, if we live with our parents/in-laws, I don't think so we would be able to postpone for even a year :-(

 

Guys,
My opinion is to have kids after 2 yrs of marriage. Strongly believe that it takes minimum of 2 yrs to develop good and true understanding between the couples (This is for arranged marriage). Not sure on LOVE MARRIAGE. First 2 years would be the best time to know and spend time with each other to develop a mutual and strong relationship which no one can break if the understanding is true to their knowledge ... For some people , it takes more than 2 yrs to understand. But we should also consider the age and decide as age plays a major role for achieving pregnancy. So the topic should first focus on the age for getting married which ideally should be between 23 and 25. May be I am deviating from the topic. Let me stop here.
Cheers,
Apharna