we don't have IC months together

dhimati · Jan 21, 2010

Hello,

Please all you lovely ladies help me sorting out this problem. My husband and I am in a very strange situation. We very rarely have sex . I am 32 and he is 34 and we don't have any marital discord as such. I do love spending time with my husband. We like carassing each other but does not end up having sex. As a result I am not able to conceive also. I really don't understand what exactly is the problem. We are married for about 7 years. Initially for about 1 year it was kind of okay.Even then like other newly married couple we didn't have sex everyday. Earlier he used to ejaculate outside my body because we didn't want a baby then. He complains about dryness of my vagina. I think I don't get excited enough to have vaginal discharge though sometimes while reading a errotic book or fantasising I do have that discharge. I am confused what to do? More because I want to get pregnant soon. I live in Bangalore. Does anyone know any good gynaec or should I consult a psychiatrist specialised in this area. If you know someone please help. Thanking you in advance.

Dhimati

mridusudha · Jan 22, 2010

For vaginal dryness use lubricants. They will definitely help you..
Light things up in between you. Have a nice romantic dinner or go out for a holiday just like a honey moon...You need to get romance back into your lives.. Be creative...Dress attractively and lure your husband...

If still things don't improve then you both need to see a psychiatrist (specialised in the area) and go for counselling...

Good luck!

radhaparth2000 · Jan 22, 2010

Dear,

You are married for 7 years and no IC for months. This is something you need to work uopn. What about the foreplay dear? Do you and your DH have sufficient foreplay, vagina gets lubricates only when you have sufficient foreplay. Also as suggested by Mridusudha consult a gynec and opt for lubricants. But ensure they are sperm friendly lubricants. Please discuss with your Dh and try to have a counselling session to voer some this dear. I am sure you are going to share the good news soon with all of us.