Hi all!! I am a very old member here but off late have not been posting much due to certain health issues though time and again i have been reading your posts here... Updating you briefly is that my mil is a v shrewd woman who just thinks about herself and is v selfish and self cenetred.Cant stand anyone coming to our house.She is not in good terms with any of her relatives or siblings...Says all are bad.The friends she roams about with ,she bitches about them too...In short she is the only lady who is so good in the entire planet and all others are v bad natured. On the other hand she is a singe mom.My FIL expired about 20 yrs back when my DH was 20.Has one daughter who is married and settled abroad. I have been married for around 8 yrs now.The main problem as i have always spoken is about her being over clingy to my husband and not giving any space and she being v rude and sarcastic to me since the beginning,always treating me like an outsider.That was always there in the initial years.I did try to bond with her but it was useless ,cox no matter what you do to he she will always find faults in you After having so much mental stress always i developed a rare illness where my body stopped producing any cells,and therefore my hoemoglobin used to drop every 2-3 weeks and i had to have blood transfusions.This happened after my baby was born 3 years back.it became severe 2 years back initially 1st year after my baby it was mild so i never needed transfusions but past 2 years i was transfusion dependant.But even though i had hb even 4.5 i used to do all my chores and take care of my baby completely and also used to go to work part time. My husband has no say about what his mom does.He has never supported me infront of her.I dont know but she kind of hypnotises him when he is at home.She would sit with him all the time and stick to him.keep bitching and problem is that he never tells me what crap his mom talks...So she just creates negativity about me and my family in him.and i can make out with his changed behaviour with me..He starts becoming distant. Finally i have had a marrow transplant a month back and therefore i am thankfull to God that i have become fine but i have to be careful for few months for a complete recovery and therefore cant go out neither i am allowed any visitors.i spent a month at the hospital which was v v tough but i am so thankful that it was worth it and God saved me.I would not deny that my husband was v supportive in this entire time during my transplant and used to encourage me a lot.It was his efforts to a great extent also which helped me in my moral boost. He is a v different person when his mom is not around..all this time we have developed a bond but somehow when his mom is around he changes which sucks me... His mom stays with us only since he is the only son and i know i cant think of living seperately since her son will never be ready. Only thing i want is peace of mind which im not getting.i want that i should not relapse after suffering so much and spending lacks of rupees.I want to heal completely and take care of my child and bring her up well... THough i am physically doing fine but again the same dramas have started by my mil.My parents are here to help.She doesnt do any work keeps lying down on her bed but still shows off that he is doing every thing.we have a cook and a maid for cleaning utensils and cleaning the home.So major work is done.But as soon as mu husb comes home her drams start...will show that sh is so vulnerable...she has pains here and there...though she is v active entire day.Then will take him to her room to apply creams and ointments on her legs and then starts with her bitching about me and my family.My husband thinks that my mom is so 'bechara'.She keeps complaining abot something or the other...she never wants a a good bonding between us since beginning as a result he also becomes distant. Problem is at this time i need a lot of love and emotional support which i am not gettng at all. i feel v v lonely.i have been waiting all these years that he will realise is mistake of not balancing out stuff but he hasnt. Besides my mil keeps saying bad things about my parents to my daughter as well.As a result she stopped talking to my mom and would get angry whenever she called her.we observed this for many days and i finally asked her who taught you this and she said 'dadi'.So she wants that my daughter should also move away from my parents and me.My mil is a saddist. I dont know what to do but i am not able to live peacefully.i cant go to my parents place cox dr needs to monitor me every 10 days for the first 4 months and they live in a diff city.else it would have been v easy for my peace of mind. I just want to be calm and relaxed and be happy...but how to overcome al this crap...i am sick and tired of this heartless woman....cany any one guide me plz. thanks for reading such a lengthy post.