Hi, My husband and his ex-wife been divorced for eight years.They have 11 years daughter together. I met my husband in 2006 while I was living in the different country. We got married this year 2007. So, please do not think I could be the reason for divorce or something. Now, I have a serious situation, my 11 years old step daughter, who lives with her mom in the same city and visit us 3-4 times a week. She doesn't like me much because her mother keep poisioning her mind against me. She is becomeing very verbal and got lots of anger. Even my husband noticed it, but because he is very attached to her and she is the only child, he don't say her anything. I always tries to compromise to let it go for the sake of my marriage. Because if I create fight, it will be my loss if my husband leaves me. And I unnecessary get the blame not to like the child. Usually, Step mom is a stigma and always considered as an evil. Now there are two major problem existing in my life due to the step daughter. I, my husband and the step daughter, we are planning to go on long trip for 4-5 hours drive. Wherever she goes with us, she keeps nagging, crying, throw tantrums and non stop talking. So, to keep her busy, I take music cds, Nintendo, story books, her fav. food and toys. She will buy the things but then she has no interst in anything. All she wants attention and keep talking non-stop. My husband and I, we both are less talktive, and thats the main thing we like about each other. Specially, when he is driving, he become distracted easily, so we keep the conversation minimum and try to enjoy the music or nature than talking. Daughter wants somebody talk to her nonstop untill you fall unconssious and if we both give her reply back, she blames me that I am doing it purposly because I don't like her presence. Is it my fault,if I am less talktive. I told her that I am not talktive, but she is always free to talk to her father,but my husband also get tired of talking too much. But then she will cry, nag, shows anger. God....:bang. Its not that she needs more attention that time because she never gets time to see or talk to my husband. She visits us 4 days a week and my husband talk to her everyday. My husband won't go anywhere without her. He hasn't taken me to the honeymoon even. He says his daughter will come with us. My Inlaws also support his decession. And second major problem, If I am holding my husband's hand, she will take him away and then I have to walk alone behind them. And if my husband wants to walk with me, she will start the crying again, either lay on the floor or run away , so we end up searching her. If I try to discuss the problem with my husband regarding this , he always jumps on conclussion that I don't like his daughter. Now, I am very stressed and AFRAID going with her and I can't say no to my husband either because I know his first reaction will be that I don't like his daughter, and also it means, then I will stay home alone and thats what Ex wife and daughter wants too. I have tried my best that daughter get along with me but but I now I have given up after alomost one year of trying. Please please help me to solve my problem or advice me how to tell my husband that I don't want to go with them, without getting or making him upset. Thank you.