Vent..Cant take it anymore from DH!

Hi Kranti,

no one has the right to bad mouth your parents not even your DH.. its important for him to realize that if he expects you to respect his parents you expect the same from him... are you saying you are pregnant and he has not spoken to you for a month? are you both in the same house and if so have a word with him tell him that it is very important for you to see that he respects your parents.. and if he expects the same from you, you too dont bad mouth your ILs... just reach a common understanding... where both of you will not disrespect each other's set of parents...

 

If you feel you are getting raw deal from your DH, be strong and you too behave the same he does when you talk any thing against your MIL. You are preggers? And DH is sulking an d not talking to you?? It's you who should be throwing temper tantrums.. just kidding..please make sure you don't go overboard and unfair to talking bad about your MIL..make sure your objections to your MIL are justified ..and at the same time, take no for insults for your parents..make a rule..if DH says something to your parents, and thinks you shud not be angry..then you should be able to do the same with his mother and should not sulk..BTW..something similar happened to me as well this morning..and I am in no mood to go and talk to him..

nidhi

 

You are pregnant and not in talking terms with your DH?

Set aside all differences for now and tell him that during this time, you want to be happy and need him on your side.

After the baby is born, this issue can be addressed.

 

hi kranti -
this is unacceptable on ur husband's part... it shows his immaturity on handling his family...

for personal sake and ur child sake u need to relax and let go of this obsession that he is hard on ur parents...

never ever in the future involve ur parents in any discussion.. if at any given time he abuses ur family, just drop the conversation and keep quiet... silent treatment,,, no more continuatuion of discussion... but do not abuse his mother... yes seems unfair, but u need to learn how u can break a fight and get back the conversation about u, rather than ur parents...

 

whenever he talks ill about your parents, just walk away. go in a different room and give him silent treatment. don't talk anything against his parents or him. He will realize his mistake.

 

Like others have said , try to move away from the conversation , start talking about something unrelated but of importance to your DH

 

Hi kranti. Have a mature talk to him. Reach a common ground. How immature of him to stop talking to you when you are expecting. No it's not acceptable. Tell him if he bad mouths your family it upsets you the same way it upsets him. So no more throwing dirt at each other. That too when you are pregnant. Tell if he will only get back what he gives. Give respect get respect . Be polite in getting your massage across to him. Be brave. I can truly understand this hormonal imbalance. Used to drive me crazy when I was pregnant. But tell him how rude of him to behave like that when you are pregnant. You have to be brave and get your message across him.

 

stop saying things about mil.Come here to vent.Ask him how he feels when i say bad things about your mother same way i feel hurt when he does it to your parents ,so dont do that.Dont go for eye for an eye in this case.