Unhappy Baby - Need help

more reading.......
WHAT HIGH NEED MEANS - A STORY ABOUT OUR HIGH NEED BABY

12 LESSONS OUR HIGH NEED BABY TAUGHT US
and here
FEELING S-T-R-E-T-C-H-E-D

hugs aishu, someday things WILL change.

 

more reading.......
WHAT HIGH NEED MEANS - A STORY ABOUT OUR HIGH NEED BABY

12 LESSONS OUR HIGH NEED BABY TAUGHT US
and here
FEELING S-T-R-E-T-C-H-E-D

hugs aishu, someday things WILL change.

 

Dear Aishu,

I believe u have got a lot of wonderful ideas from all experts here..

I would just like to add my experiences...My LO is almost similar to urs...i am a working mom and she clings to me when she sees me around...on weekends,it will be become a little dificult...

Things we do:

* send her to our neighbours house and she loves to see more people and play with them...she spends around 3 hrs in neighbours(3 houses and they take turns)...but make sure they are also willing to take LO and u are confortable with them...in my case,i had no issues
* I had bought a plastic baby swing,rocking horse,walker...initially we used to sit with her..nowadyas,we put her on the swing.turn on the TV ,music channel and turn her direction towards the TV ...she ll sit for sometime...Rocking horse,u need to sit next to LO for few days catching them...now my LO herself rocks on the horse without any help like Jhansi Rani :-D ...Walker i started to put her as soon as she completed 6 months,i.e as soon as she was able to sit on her own...initially she was scared for 1-2 days..then she got used and and nowshe moves in full speed..
U can maybe buy similar toys..
* I used to keep all her toys in a big tub and then i used to sit next to her and put the toys around her and made her to play...after some days,in case i have urgent work,i just used to keep her near the tub and put the toys around her and she would play for few minutes(but i have to return before that)...nowadays she herself will go,stand near that plastic tub and take the toys out and play...
* take my LO out for a walk on weekends..this even my In laws or DH will do...but we make sure,we take for a 1/2 hour walk daily
* we have put a small wooden door(height similar to tat of my LO so tat she cannot jump and go, but she can stand and see outside) near our gate...initially,i used to take my daughter ,sit with her and she used to watch all passerbys...nowadays she herself would crawl and go near it,stand and watch and will be talking to herself,wave hands to the passerbys or just gaze at the sky....

But even wen we made her do all these, we made sure that she knows tat i/we are around by talking with her...by doin all these,i feel she has become comfortable with everyone around..it is not that i have to be always around her...she just wants someone near

sometimes even wen none of these work, i used to take her to whichever room i go,if she is fine,i keep her down,give some article in her hand which is not harmful like plastic box,camera covers,spoons or vessels that dont have a sharp end or something that makes noise and do my work, in case she is not fine with these,i do carry her around with me(at this case,i myself have no idea wat can be done)...after some time,i divert her to somethin else ....

Maybe u try these for your LO too...Hope i dint bore u with a lenghty post

All the best and enjoy

 

Aishu, let me tell you about my DD, she was exactly like this, I was working then, but had my mom and a live-in maid at home, so that was quite easy for mom, to talk/sing/play with her all the day. When she napped, mom did quick chores. After am back from office, I would do that. Nights and mornings, its DH. We had a routine, but 24/7, she had one of us with her. All this, till her 2.4yrs. Later, she changed slowly, her socialising skills improved, her clinginess reduced. Now, I hear from her, 'I dont want a kiss from amma!',lol
But till then, i have worried enough, on whether she is pampered, are we over-parenting, have heard people preaching me left n right on how to bring up a happy baby, etc etc. Now I believe, if a child demands attention, we gotta give them that, they know when to stop clinging too-much and become independent. Every single time the child screams, they need reassurances that we are there, this understanding would help her in the long run Do rant here, if that would give you sanity.

Tikka knows better on babywearing, yaa cooking isnt ok, but all other chores like setting table, prepping for cooking, cleaning up the kitchen counter, mixing solids for baby, cleaning her bowls, sweeping, mopping, all can be done with baby in the carrier. I have done that, with DS in sling. Do talk to DH, set a routine for the kitchen works, so that you can finish max chores when he is there at home. Manage the rest with the baby till he is back. You know what would work best for you

@DH, heheeeeee, that was the first reaction of mine too, 3.9yrs back ) my DH always is paranoid about those TERMS He understand in our mother tongue verbatim, but never in the so-called ENGLISH TERMS He doesnt know what is called colic, hi-needs, babywearing, intolerance, eczema, all the jargons (according to him) that we use but he knows what they mean! HE says, he doesnt like too many terms, that somehow gives him a sick feel! Sigh!

Poonam, wonderful links as always )