Uff..My insecure MIL

Hey SS....Take care dear. Glad you are fine and getting better.

Frankly speaking,someone really needs to tell your drama queen mil to STFU and cut out the drama.She had a chance to help out but she did not. You having to go to your parents place is showing her in a bad light,so the extra drama to appear like she cares.

How about you tell your husband to tell her you will soon be back home so she should hold her horses ,then you keep delaying.

Or if you have the heart to send your dd to your place with husband and let mil take care of her,that will work too. She will have to finally take care of her or husband gets to see her true face.You get to stay with parents and husband can't complain .Hope your dd keeps her far too busy for her to work her magic on your husband.

If these don't work...just go back for a week ,then back again to parents place for some more TLC.

 

Ask MIl to come to your DH's place, you go there with your DD for a weekend, and come back to your parents' house on Monday morning, after DH leaves to office. And be sure to tell your MIL that doc has asked you to take it easy for a few more weeks, so she can see her granddaughter after 3 weeks next.

Yes, she will be alone with her DS. But I think that is the least compromise possible.

 

It doesnt make sense tht ur mil comes to ur parents place while they already have the responsibilty of u n ur daughter....is ur mil stupid or what....
why she is so desperate to see her granddaughter just now....why cant she wait???had it been years she hasnt seen her ???
everybody knows tht u r not well hence at ur parents place so why she is creating problem for u at this time instead of helping u....other family members joining their hands with her and pressurizing u and u people getting pressurised. ....

Dont get presseurized ....ur dh must tell her that when u will recover u will come back to home wth dd....then she can spend time wth dd as much as she wants....till then she can wait....
dont come in this emotional useless drama....be firm...dont givin

 

OP, First and foremost , take care of yourself. Tell your hubby to stop badgering you with useless things. Yes useless things like MIL and her wanting to see grand daughter. Why the sudden love? Oh The love emerges when they need spice in life and need to stir some fights in DIL 's and son's life.

Best option is tell your hubby to bring her and send her back. First of all you shudnt have returned back to IL's when SIL- MIL forced you. All they want is always to keep DIL's in sight to make them miserable. Never put yourself in that position again. However loving they are, given their track record. Your hubby has put up with insane demands of money before. Seeing it work they are continuing. If this didn't wake him up nothing will. Your in laws are heartless to demand same contribution with you still in recovery. Your SIL is a spoiled brat who needs a dose of reality. Sadly your hubby is not doing it. It will be your loss and your daughter's loss.

Give a stern warning to hubby. He needs to wise up and think about you as family and not go on filling an bottomless pot like MIL - SIL. Take care of your health. That's the most important thing right now. Good Luck.

 

Just stop taking calls from your in-laws for sometime...
Whenever they ask you to accommodate them/come back to in-laws place just tell them how sick and unwell you are and how you never got any help from them..Sometimes you have to be straightforward and forthright when people trouble you unnecessarily.

 

This.....
You both allow too much interference from bil and let him influence your decisions that should only be taken by you.

Agree with Rihana...this is a good time to reduce /stop financial aid to sil . The brat sponge needs to know the value of money.If she can fight against the brother and shift city on her own,she can go out and earn some money too.You are the ones who need help now.

 

SS,

A mixed bag of blessings huh? In the middle of all the bad stuff, only silver lining is that you and your h have bonded well. Good to know you are with parents and recovering.

Re: your issue, normally I would not suggest this but... Dont take any of 3 options you have presented. Instead take all the time you want in your parents house to recover fully and completely, mentally and physically. But, to MIL, keep telling her, yes I will come back, I will shift back in two days and delay your return on one pretext or the other. That is the only way in which she will understand that her dramebaazi isnt working. Besides it is not like you are enjoying with your parents, you are recovering from n accident. So enough is enough.

Re: BIL, you and your h need to grow a thick skin. Just because he said so doesnt mean you have to immediately react by changing your plns. First of all your h should reply back 'yes mom is like that. She keeps telling me also she misses you (BIL) all the time. I just dont tell you because I dont want you to feel guilty about it. ' or ' didnt she tell you what a bad accident SS had? she really needs to recover. She will return soon.' Secondly so what if he tells? You ppl say, 'oh', 'ah', 'yeah', 'is it? and change the subject. There is no need to change your plan because of someone's prodding. You are adults, you are responsible ppl and you have taken this decision based on some reasons right? So dont be swayed. OP, please understand that when you and your h react by changing course to this kind of suggestions form this kind of source it gets noticed immediately. Next time even more such suggestions will come your way. So grow a thick skin. Just say, 'oh is that so?' and leave it. After several hints, if they ask for an explanation say what is the problem -- you ve not recovered and what you have decided --you will come when you are ready to.