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Two Sides to a Coin

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by Kamalji, Oct 23, 2007.

  1. Kamalji

    Kamalji IL Hall of Fame

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    Two Sides of a Coin



    A lot has been made of the Calcutta Rizwan murder,Todi is being made out the villian.Since a few days another hight profile case has come in the papers.South actor, Chiranjeevi, his daughter has run away and got married to a guy, she is 19 and he 22.Chiranjeevi is very upset.His dau and SIL, have presented themselves in Delhi in front of the court, and given a statment, that they be protected, otherwise they fear, the SIL may meet the fate of Rizwan.The court has ordered police protection to the couple.


    In both cases, the couples were of marriagable age, and married with each other's consent, if not the parent's of both the sides.In both cases, the parents of the girl have been potrayed as being the villians by news papers and NGO's.Interviews are being given left right and centre, and the boy's side people are all over the media.But the Girl's side, no statments.



    Has anyone thought fit to ask the parents of the girls for their side of the story?Of what they have to go through in society,and the future recupersions for them.Westerners must be laughing if they read these stories.According to them,a girl or boy have every right to cohabit, marry anyone , after they are 18.that is fine.That is their society.They tell the children to move out after they are 18.The parents dont spend a penny on the chikldren's education or healthcare.And the kids have no claim on inheritance, by law.In short, the parent's responsibilites end when their children turn 18, and the kids too can then marry anyone of their choice, or live in.That is the way of the western world.



    But things are different here in the Eastern part of the World.Even after the children are past 18, they stay with us, parents feed, clothe, and educate the children, and even the higher studies.And unlike the West,they have a stake in the Property of their parents too.And the parents take out their savings for a decent wedding of their children, at times borrowing, as also for the higher education of their children.I know of a Bank Manager , who sent his son to the States for his highter studies, and he has taken loan from his retirment money.



    Now just because the child is over 18,and legally permitted to marry,dont they have an obligation to their parents? Dont the parents want their child to be well educated, and married decently ? Parents may not desire the earnings of their children, but they do wish,they settle down decently in life.



    Look from Chiranjeevi's point of view.The SIL is only 22 and studying.He may be of different caste too.And the son in law was accused 5 yrs back of kidnapping a Girl,but the girl's parents did not press the charges, and so the case was dropped.This means the guy was 17, when he ran away with the Girl.And we expect Chiranjeevi to accept him ?And this girl loved this guy for 4 years, that is when she was 15, she was in love.Should she have been studying at 15, or falling in love ?



    Intercaste marriages or love marriages are not bad per se.There have been so many,the most famous being of Sunil Dutt and Nargis.And she being elder to him .But he took on the responsibility to take care of her.And he had the guts to tell her not to work, when she was on the top.



    I just wonder, why dont these boys give in writing to the police and the courts that they are not interested int he wealth of their father in Law, and will never tell their wife to claim it,that they will take care of their wives with their own earnings? This will prove their intentions are honourable.And that the child, born out of wedlock too will not be told to claim his grandfather's property.



    There was this famous case of Mumbai a few years back,a rich oldbachelor a liking to a young female staying in the neighbourhood, and made her his daughter.He made her a nominee in his accounts, and made her a coholder in his various flats in town.He had a driver of many years.This female fell in love with the driver, and eloped with him, which enraged the old man so much, that he disowned her, and removed her names from all his bank accounts, and the properties.



    She ganged up with the driver, and on some pretext went to meet the old man,and told him that she is sorry.And somehow the driver also reached there, and the two killed the old man, and tried to pass it off as an heart attack.The couple was convicted, and as she came out of the courts, she jumped from up, and she died on the spot.



    Children too are to blame for the hurt and shame they bring on their parents.Just ask the parents what they go through, we just get to hear one side of the sotry from the press.


    Every Coin has Two Sides.

    KAMAL MAHTANI
     
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  2. Nivedi

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    Kamalji,

    After watching all those videos of Chiranjeevi's daughter, I felt the girl is too young to even understand the implications of a married life. She could have waited for another 3-4 years, completed her education and tried to convince her parents in the process. She surely must have caused a lot of heart-ache for her parents by doing this. Being 18 or 19 by no means is a sign that the girl or boy have enough wisdom to think of their lives ahead. But the girl kept insisting in every interview that she is legally a major and can decide for her life.

    In Rizwanur's case, it is a heavy price that the young boy paid for marrying Todi's daughter. Todi could have dis-owned his daughter, instead of having pushed the boy into death's hand.
     
  3. Tamildownunder

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    Dear Kamalji,

    I think too much publicity is being given for Chiranjeevi's daughter and son-in-law. Chiranjivi has also told on TV that he blesses his daughter. But, still why all the drama?. Jurror dhal mein kala hai.

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    TDU
     
  4. Kamalji

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    Nivedi,

    Reg Todi, even i agree with u, the boy should not have been murdered, it that is murder that is.He could have disowned his daughter as u rightly said.Agreed.

    Reg the videos of Chiranjeevi's daughter, i have not seen, but from the newspapers she seems very immature.And going to the police and saying she is afraid her father may get them killed is too much really.

    Yes being a major kids think they can do anything and get away with it.Sad really.Regards.kamal


    TNU,

    Chiranjeevi dosnt need this kind of punlicity.Today the news papers said Chiranjeevi's brother went to the police station with his revolver etc and created a drama there.

    Really the whole family is full of drama TNU.Thanks and regards.kamal
     

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