So yesterday me and mil were talking about budget.She told me its requires 22k + to run house.I dont believe it.I have done rough calculations and sum goes to max 15-16k.I told very sweetly since we are short of money lets start writing down all our expenses.So it will be easy to track expenses.Also we will be able to see whether we can save money on some fronts. But she threw fit.Got all emotional and said dialogue like i think we both,mil fil should start eating once a days only.Thats the only way to save money. I was expecting that reaction.So i just plain neglected her tantrums.Since my marriage she has treated home budget as a sacred sanctuary.She has tried very hard to keep me out of it. First i though since she has been home maker all her life thats the way she saves money.ie she keeps some of the money in banks for emergency.So decided to not to do anything about it.But now i discover she doesnt even have bank account. So now question is where 10 k is going? I have very strong doubt that it goes SIL every month.I dont MIL FIL helping SIL financially if they are in financial trouble.But they arent! Also they should do it openly.ie we should also know whats going on. I am going to maintain diary and wright down all expenses in it whether she approves or not.