i am 3 months pregnant and i have my in laws at home for 4 months who are very helpful when it comes to home chores etc. I have 2 year old at home and they take care of him very well as well. no complaints there. But my problem is i am not big into cooking and i love to work. but my mil believes that a womens place in this wrold is at home; cooking , cleaning, putting up with husbands when they behave nastily, feeding everyone should be her only and main responsibility. i have explained to her many times that this is not me and my husband is compeltely fine with who i am. but i get advise from her every single day on this, some days i keep quiet, some days i jsut cant take it , i dont shout at her or raise my voice i end up defending myself . i am exhasuted. i had an ivf and it was a stressful journey, having them home for this was helpful in certain way but to hear this everyday is adding to my stress and i just hate to be home. i know, i shouldnt be bothered by this and jsut move on with it, but some days she jsut gets on my nerves. my dad helps my mom in evertyhing that she does. he doesn't care what kind of work it is. they split it 50 -50 and my husband also is like this. but she does everything she can to change that because she treats her husband like a child and her son like a new born, and thinks that is the best way. she does everything for me too and she expects that i be the same with everyone. i have tried to get my point across by saying i dont need you treat me like a child always and i dont want to be expected to treat everyone like that, but she never udnerstands that and thinks she is teaching me how to be by being an example. it is causing lot of stress. i know there is nothing i can do..but i jsut needed to vent . thanks for listeneing ladies.