Thinking of having a child in mid 40s

Go for it with confidence.
You are not too old. My husband and I are also older and trying for our first child. It is not the ideal situation we hoped for but life happens. There are plenty of women my age and older at my clinic.
The only thing I would advise is a proactive aggressive approach. If you can do your medical treatments in Canada (if that is where you live) it would help you a lot. I would honestly not spend any time on homeopathy. At 42 your wife does have any time to spare.
Go straight to the best reproductive endocrinologist. If you don't get success right away, I would suggest IVF with genetic testing of the embryo so you maximize your chances. You can screen for common chromosomal problems such as Down's syndrome which can save you a lot of potential heartbreak. Of course this is only if such testing is in line with your beliefs.
Good luck, it is perfectly doable but don't waste any more time. Get thee to a doctor ASAP.

 

I second that MalStorm has written. I have number of colleagues who had kids in 40s, two guys were in their 50s. Yes, chances of chromosomal abnormalities increase with age but it doesn't happen as one hits 30 or 40, it is gradual.
As some one else said about age- if you keep a healthy lifestyle, 60 is not old. So many people work in their 70s (by choice not due to financial condition) and lead happy, healthy life. I am youngest among 5, my dad was 42 when I was born, retired before I finished college. Still going strong and enjoying his 8 grandkids and one great grandkid .

Good luck!

 

There is nothing wrong in having child at latter age. Only thing is they must be ready for a child free life if things doesn't work out in their favor.

If a younger couple have child they will have energy to raise a child but financial settlement is another area that will drain their energy. But by 40's they would have some financial stability so they can direct all their energy in raising a child.

Yes, there is risk of Down's syndrome, autism etc.

 

In case if you don't know, Ontario is considering to offer one free IVF cycle that might start some time in 2016. In case if your wife could carry a pregnancy you guys can avail the opportunity.

 

Hi @rsk12,

I will keep you in my daily prayers . May God bless you with a healthy Child .

Cheers
Preethi

 

I agree with Vasumathy, it's not so easy to handle a kid after 40 years, by the time the child starts his/her college you will be 60+....so it will be difficult to meet their expectations at that age....ideally children should be settle down in their life by the time we get retired from work....then it will easy to manage the retirement period mentally, physically and financially...

 

HI

My uncle is 45 yrs and just gave birth to twin baby girls.. they are celebrating their first bday this november... (though they did not postpone,nature took its turn)

so If u r financially well, please go ahead. surrogacy is available in every hospital in chennai, whereas it might be little costly,i think srushti fertility center is giving it at a nominal price.As others suggested please do every test, so that before taking any step it will be helpful to decide.

Take care,my prayers are with u.