@anika987 you are am an empath.I relate to this post strongly, as I believe I am an empath too. You try yo understand your MIL feelings from her perspective. It doesn't mean your Mil has to be like you. She is surely standing her ground and asking you to be her servant. You can be an empath, talk to her, nod, and smile just don't take any action toward bringing anywhere closer. My mom also tries to tells me about what I should and shouldn't don't do. Especially after my MIL trouble in 2019. I am standing my effing ground. I have a boundary that is established. I am standing in mine, while I am listening and texting her. If beyond that my MIL calls or asks me to hand over my phone to my kid. NO ways. That extra facility has to be earned from my MIL which she clearly lost by behaving badly with me. You have a higher privilege here. She knows that he is your husband you don't even have to say it, that's is why she stresses it again and again to reassure herself. Don't cut her out, just don't entertain her either.