They Say They Don't Believe In Marriage.

Why judge?
They are blessed with a less judgemental society and their conduct is according to that.
What matters most is that the baby is loved,the child will not be called names and people are looking forward to the birth instead of thinking about the drain to throw it in.Throwing a child in a drain....now that is disgusting.

As for the mother's reaction....How do you not love the child of your child?Whatever the circumstances...her reaction is better than killing your child in the name of honor....or any of the many things we do to girl's in such circumstances.

I don't think we as a society are that much better to be so judgemental.

Personally...I think she is a bit too young physically and emotionally to be having a child...

 

I too feel the same.. I feel that giving birth to a baby is fine only after marriage.. But now a days I see that many people are ok with "living together" concept in which if they get along with their partner well then they continue for the whole of their life else look for another partner.. Once you get married you need to maintain a good relationship with your partner's family(which includes your partner's uncle and aunt etc..).. But in relationships without marriage you don't need to bother about others.. If their relationship with their partner goes on in a steady manner then they think of having a baby else they don't decide on having a baby that easily.. A lot of planning goes on wrt issue on baby.. This is what I think..

 

There is no guarantee that the baby is going to be loved and pampered by her/his father even if married. We are seeing many such stories here in IL, including mine. Divorce here in US is as simple as living together and parting away. It does not make any difference. You can ask for child support in both the cases. The only difference is no income from either side will be split if they are not married.
I always wonder why did i marry. If atleast i did not marry him and just lived with this guy and still had a baby, atleast i would not have thought that this is a life long bonding and may be i would have been less hurt with all that happened.
But i feel 17 year old girl is a child, who would not be strong enough to hold another child, both physically and mentally.

 

I totally agree with @yellowmango. Why are you so worried about that girl, it's quite common in their society and their family & society accepts this.

Even our Indian culture has lot of negatives. What if these foreigners ask us about - why do we need to give/take dowry for marriage? Why some females still continue in a bad marriage? Why an unmarried lady has to go for abortion? Why a girl child is being killed / aborted?

Every culture & society is different. If they are following their culture, then why should we have a problem at all, who are we to judge them?

 

I am not worried about before marriage or after marriage..
At 17,she herself is a kid and dependent on her parents.I strongly believe woman should be physically and mentally prepared to take care of a child and the responsibilities that come with it.

She has to complete an education first and make herself financially capable.Having a child is not a joke.

Honestly,even with the living together or child out of wedlock EVEN IN TODAY'S WORLD the woman is the one who is affected.

I remember a doctor who said"girls are so open minded these days and ok with living together and guys are only more than happy to take advantage"..

Is the guy going to be pregnant or deliver??only the girl will go through all the emotional hell.Even if they split it's the woman who in most cases are suffering.one needs to think...

 

Teen pregnancy is high in the US. 17 is not the age to have a child. Stating that.

This is a complicated situation- Living in the US, this is one such thing we should educate our child about sex, actions, and responsibilities.
I am pro-life, but again I would think long and hard if I were 17 and pregnant. Not because of what the society or people around me will say...

How much support my family can give? At 17, my parents were feeding me and giving me pocket money. So, I have to depend on my parents to feed, cloth, diaper and even babysit my child? Even if I had to go out and try to make a living?
Will the 17-year-old girl stick to the father of the child, because he is the father and will never date?
This situation is like playing house- the 17-year-old will have a baby and her parents will take responsibility of raising the child, when she goes to school, parties or until she finds a job?

Not that it can't be done- but it takes a lot of effort from her parents and her, less drama from the child's father.


In my experience-
Americans find it easy to be in-live in, have a child without commitment. It's their perspective of freedom. To them marriage is an eternal bond and just to have a child they shouldn't be married... if they don't see love, compromise or unsure, they don't get married. Americans don't believe in commitment and then fall in love.

I had few friends who had children and weren't married. But they were committed to each other and in late 20's. They were doing their MS and living together. Taking responsibility for their offsprings.

I definitely respect couples who can take care of their children with marriage or without marriage. All the child needs is a loving family with steady partners. The child doesn't know or care the institution of marriage.

 

The pregnancy was an accident and marriage will not obviously solve the problem, so why marry? There's no guarantee the boy will let the girl finish her education and achieve her career goals. I'd rather keep the baby than let a daughter of mine marry at 17!

People and relatives will obviously gossip about it but its better than seeing my child suffer for life.

 

Probably they don't believe that a baby is the right reason to get married. Baby at 17 is not right imo. But getting married is not a solution either. 2 wrongs don't make a right.

I wish Indian society is as accepting of mistakes and gives these kids 2nd chances in lives.