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The Seed Of Jealousy

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by sunkan, Apr 25, 2007.

  1. sunkan

    sunkan Gold IL'ite

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    seed of jealousy…
    Other wise a wonderful relation went hay wire, due to the jealousy, which human beings always conclude, being suspicious with out any proof can lead to many unpleasant situation…

    Man or woman, need to keep working at any relationship for it to be smooth and develop and work for it to bloom. The amount we think about the negative if we could pour in a little of our time about the positive attitudes of your dear ones if u consider them to be so.

    We come across a lot of individuals who can speak ill of others for hours together but if they could take a little time to think what they can contribute towards the better side of any person, it would help. In developing an attitude to train your mind to think the better side more than the negative, now I am not asking u to turn a saint but yes, a normal person should work at training the mind to think positive.

    Especially where our spouse is concerned, we tend to see the shortcomings more. There must be some quality that made you choose the person in the first place and there are some that come to light which are not to your liking, never try to change a person to your liking rather take the trouble to analyze and have a lot of interaction, before you select your spouse or your partner and plunge into marriage, that way you may avoid small little differences, which need your attention to be solved. By observing the nuances of a relation to make it a bond to be happy about.

    Relatives also play a great role in helping some relationship. they sometime are mediators but most interfere a lot and are unable to understand and advise all wrong things. Like I always felt a direct connection to any issue should be 1:1 rather than bringing in a lot of judges, the difference of opinion could be solved with an open mind.

    Regretting, later thinking about the plus points, is like a spilt milk, that u can do nothing about. Major decisions taken should be put to scanner before bringing it to fore. There are many meddlers too, who would love a split and who may be dear to you, better be aware of them, while being very close they may not be happy to see you having a serene state of mind and bliss…

    Woman always seek a dad in their partner and men their mother, so here itself it is very clear, woman expect their partner to be more matured and behave so, whereas man always wants to be pampered, taken care of, so here we see the nature tampering with the relationship right from the womb itself. Regards sunkan

     
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  2. varalotti

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    Again a Good One, Sunkan!

    Following the lines of how we admire our men, comes these seeds of jealousy. An equally good piece.

    "Major decisions taken should be put to scanner before bringing it to fore"

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    "Woman always seek a dad in their partner and men their mother, so here itself it is very clear, woman expect their partner to be more matured and behave so, whereas man always wants to be pampered, taken care of, so here we see the nature tampering with the relationship right from the womb itself."
    I loved these lines very much.

    You have also rightly cautioned about the meddlers who have wrecked many a life.

    Good post on the whole, Sundari. Looking forward to many such posts from you.

    regards,
    sridhar
     
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  3. sunkan

    sunkan Gold IL'ite

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    thanku sridhar,
    if it had not been for ur instigation i wouldn't had bothered to notice that i could write in the first place....i owe this to u...regards sundari kannan
     
  4. sudhavnarasimhan

    sudhavnarasimhan Silver IL'ite

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    Dear Sundari,

    Great thinking and great post.....i just knew u to be a very craetive artist, but my my you and your sister seem to have it in your genes.....loved this writeup!

    Especially these lines....."There are many meddlers too, who would love a split and who may be dear to you, better be aware of them, while being very close they may not be happy to see you having a serene state of mind and bliss…"

    This happened to me recently and like you said through a friend whom i thought was very close and knew me in and out.....But Jealousy does have its way , and to this day i cant overcome this feeling of hurt and disbelief that a friend could do this to me!
    Sorry these lines brought back the recent happenings in my life and i am still trying to come to grips with human relationships.....thats why the suyapuranam!:cry:

    But good post, keep writing more on these lines!

     
  5. abhatv

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    Hi Sunkan,

    A very good post. Though you have started with jealousy, it is more about human relationships.
    It is very true that you have to learn to accept persons as they are and love them not only at home but also wherever you come into contact with the same persons very often, like your workplace.
    At first I used to get very annoyed with a colleague of mine for her various ways, but now I like her for what she is and often tend to stand up for her when others comment about her as she has not changed a bit over the years. As you become familiar with a person you can understand a lot of their thought processes too. I can go on and on.... but enough is enough.

    Regards,

    Abha.
     
  6. sunkan

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    dear sudha,
    all these are the life's experience which i share here, only when varalotti was behind me so badly to write, i came upon this idea of putting my thoughts to word and here i see many have their own to share...sorry to hear abt ur friend doing that but pl! if i may say so learn to be a hunter, dont stick on to a scene nothing here, then there is always some one there further, i am like that so it is easy to live..regards sunkan
     
  7. sunkan

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    dear abha nice to know it has generated related thoughts in ur mind after all, the human relation is so vast there is always someone similar somewhere in everybody's life, that when we read an article, thoughts rush back to tell u abt ur episode....regards sunkan
     
  8. sathya

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    hello akka

    poramaiyo poramai
    jealousyo jealousy
    irukkatha pinna
    anal intha jealousy veru vitham
    ethanai vitham...nee ezhudu..!!

    ungal veettu roja
    thanni kooda vidaamal
    pookkuthe thamarai..
    engal veettu malligai
    thuliyoonda pootha poo
    ange enna kushiyo
    octopus kanakka pookkude..?
    paal kaaran vandittaal
    itho varennu kural ketkuthe
    azhagana pennidamirunthu
    iynthe nimidathil soodana coffee
    sarkarai pothuma?
    vatta nilavu thosaiyum
    adukkiya chappathiyum
    koodave alumattaram
    palak sabji yam
    rajasthani punjabinnu samayalaam...
    hmmmmmmmmmmmm

    sathya

    sudha enna solgiraal?
    pesikkonde oruvaridam
    kan simittiyathu ennidam?
    en peyarayum sonnathaal
    thulliyathe manathum...
    genes il ellaam illai
    ingu ezhuthil thaan irukku?

    sathya
     
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  10. sunkan

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    happy to hear this from u vidya,
    i am always here for all ur queries...regards sunkan
     

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