The Old lady down the lane!

Megha dear I dont know how I missed this wonderful and thought provoking post of yours. Feel really sorry for the old lady but in present times most of the old people are going through this. Children now a days lead a hectic life and dont realise that they should spend sometime with their parents in old age.

What a coincidence when I was writing fb for this post my sister phoned who is 72 yrs old, not so healthy having health problems but keeps herself busy whole day after having servant also with her. Takes only one hour rest in the afternoon. It seems today when she was lighting the diya her grandson who is 6 yrs old came to her and told patti you are working a lot. Dont worry when you die you will be lying down and need not work. But you wont die now you will die only when I am sixteen years old. It was so touching to hear that. Her son and dil look after her nicely and tell her not to do any work but she does not listen saying if I work then only I will be healthy. I told her dont worry your grandson will look after you.

 

Mega very touching post.I wrote a poem in Tamil named SIPPI THAI {Mother shell}A Shell grows the Pearl.when the Pearl become matured it is on the Crown but the shell is left on a corner.Though it is natural A pain is seen on the Mother's face with out the children near by.

 

Dear Megalife,

Wonderful write up & Yes its painful to see them all alone battling for their life in their own way.I can relate to it & I have similar such experiences which has left me with heavy heart.

 

A fantastic writing and observation Mega. You don't have to feel guilty. Instead you should bless your stars that you were able to give some good time for the old lady.

I thank God for he gave us the opportunity to settle here 10 years before, which has freed us from feeling guilty. We never thought of NRI status. We were laughed upon by even close relatives when we said we need to take care of parents at their old age. So instead of thinking about it then, we thought it better to settle here now itself. Now I have more number of senior citizens around us who appreciate our decision.

Hope I meant no offence to anybody. Each ones situation is different.

Regards
Munch kin

 

Dear Megalife,

After finished reading it...there was a lump in the throat. What is the point of arranging a grand funeral when they did not bother about the mother when she was alive? Why are we becoming like this...technologically a lot has improved, money wise well off, spending a lot of money on various things and gadgets that flood the market every week,.but when it comes to parents, why so many excuses, ifs and buts Even if one is abroad...can make a good arrangement good living conditions,good help, visiting every few months...is it such a difficult thing.?They go on holidays...this week Thanksgiving, biggest travelling time in USA, people book tickets much much in advance. During summer vacation...the first question in any part is "Where are you going for holidays" or when they come back the question is"What shopping you did in India?" They have time for all these things but not for parents...moreover she is single. Is it not degeneration of moral values? A generation ago...though they did not have much money, their hearts were good and shared whatever they had. Where are we leading?

ML, your language and way of expression is excellent. It was like reading an old English Novel..as many side. Excellent snippet.

Syamala