Tell me what is wrong in being lazy for some days.

After all these years of marriage we seem to have started having problems now. It is 10yrs into marriage with 2 wonderful kids aged 8 and 6.
I am stay home mom now after being laid off 4months back. Usually, My house is neat and organized but since 3-4 months I have neglected housework like anything. I did not clean kitchen and bathrooms for 2 months now and house is vacuumed once in 3 weeks. The only thing I have been doing regularly is cooking dinner and loading dishwasher. I wash clothes when we run out of clothes only. OK this was not all for 10yrs. We used to hire help when I was in job. This is only for the last 3-4 months now. Somehow, I feel lazy and not feel like doing anything.
Dh does not want me to hire help since he is worried about spending on it when I can do it. Also, last night he was saying, You cannot ask those guys to clean the house *this* dirty. They will freak out. I agree that the bathroom are in bad state, tub, shower curtain are very dirty.
OK I told dh to clean one bathroom so I can do the other and also help me in cleaning the rest of the house. He says 'what do you do all the time at home, can't you do it, a room a day'? You just want to push everything on my head.
I think he is jealous or what? I don't know, but each time he sees me on internet he gets irritated. He says, instead of hanging out on those silly sites (Indusladies) you can clean the house and get it done. He knows I read lot of blogs here on Indusladies and other sites. I tell him about some of the write-ups here and he listens very patiently but when he is mad he gets that out on me.

I mean, I understand I am at home now but what is it with these men?
I told him even I know how working in offices goes about. I have been there, done that. Don't you hang out at coffee bars unnecessarily chatting some useless things? Don't you put off your work just because you don't feel like doing it for that day? For this he said yeah, I put off work but not for 3 months otherwise I would have been kicked out by now.
Yesterday, he was really mad and told the problem is you have been having help (maidservice) with house work for quite a looooong time and now when needed also you are not able to do your own household work. He started saying how much money I have wasted on it because of my this attitude etc. He never pays for the cleaning service. I used to pay so he considers as "I" have wasted.
Lately, we have been having arguments on this. Last night it was kind of heated and I told him I did not complain like this when he was out of work. To this he says he does not need my money. He says with whatever he makes he can survive and give kids and me decent living and I am arrogant.
He says I have never asked you to work or not. It is your choice and don't talk as if you are doing me a favor. I did not need your money even when I was laid off....I never used your insurance even then.

Tell me, what's wrong in my attitude? I have earned all these 10 yrs. And I am sure I will get a job this year. When he was laid off 3 yrs back for 5months then, I never complained like this. We still had maid service then. He would wake up at 11 am and eat and sleep at his will and I always thought I should not bother him since he was already tensed being out of job.

 

Priya, My husband will know if I call the cleaners and start saying I am wasting money and what are you doing at home even if you can't do this?

 

He has this attitude of 'my money', 'your money' only because I am a working lady. He said so many times he preferred non-working to working ladies.
We have our own bank accounts and he tells me all his finance info but hardly ever hears mine or advises me. He does not care for my salary though I make only 10% less than him. Even for kids he will never use my medical insurance from my company. It is always how he invested in so and so share and how he profited or lost how much. If I tell him about my things he just waits till I finish up. His plans will also be as if he is the only earning member here and mine is negligible. His finances are all like that.
Isn't he more arrogant? Tell me very frankly.

 

Priya, Thank you so much for your quick responses.
Yeah, He is responsible with kids and other matters of the household. I can say that. But what bothers me is he does not give importance to my working or not. I will tell you one incident to make it clear. After I got laid off I called him and told him the news. I came to know of this in advance with the things going on because our company was in the verge of shutting down. But I did not reveal this to dh. When I gave the news one day, what do you expect the reaction??
But the case here is JUST COOL! It does not bother him at all. He said 'oh!, ok I am sorry to hear that. I have a meeting now so I have to leave'.
Even in the night he did not mention that. He does not bother AT ALL!!

On the other had when he was laid off, I made sure he was not offended by what I said. I cared more for him those days. I tried to keep him happy always.

But now, this man does not bother about me. I have been laid off, first time after 10yrs and isn't it a SHOCK for some one. I don't need him to sit by me and console me or shed a tear for me but how can he remain COOL like that?
Am I missing something? Please tell me if I am wrong. Feel free as I am open to any thing from your guys here.