Tamil Nadu is leading in divorce cases!

People of Tamil Nadu are considered as conservative by people living in other states. But according to statistics they are the ones leading in divorce cases. Why this divorce very (வெறி) is taking place? Is it due to cultural degradation? We are the people who are boasting about our culture.

Do parents are forcing their wards for arranged marriages and so there is no compatibility between the couples?
But according to the statistics even love marriages also break down for non- compatibility.

It seems when people are in love they do not find any incompatibility. Only after getting married and start living together they realize the incompatibility.

Intolerance, no compromise, no flexibility and egoistic mentality seems to be the reason for the fall out. I believe the reason for these shortcomings is due to late marriage. That's why our elders preferred to perform the marriages of daughters early, so that they will adapt to the new family environment. Though nowadays couples prefer nucleus family, still they find it difficult to adjust among themselves.

The children are the ones who are seriously affected if the couples opt for divorce. Even the parents of the couples are also greatly affected. Though family courts are dealing with divorce cases and trying their level best by counselling the couples the situation is becoming from bad to worse.

What is your take on this matter?

 

Dear Anu,
We old timers really feel very sad seeing this kind of situation.
As for the saying 'Marriages are made in heaven,' and now 'divorces are made in court.'
People have already become used to this and they just move on without taking any corrective activity.
Thanks for joining me in expressing your anguish,
Love,
PS

 

Dear rgs,
There was a time when marriage was considered as 'Ayiram kaalathu payir.'
Some time back I read in a newspaper that couples are signing marriage contract before tying the knot. I do not know how far it is true and if it is legally valid in our country.
We in India deem marriage sacrosanct. But now it is fast changing and marriage is for convenience. If it doesn't suit the couple at any time they can think of separation.
Thanks for dropping in and posting your fb,
Love,
PS

 

Dear Ramya,
Thanks for dropping in and posting your views.
Education and financial independence plays a major role in the current scenario. There was a time when the groom's side used to put conditions before marriage. But now girls themselves are putting conditions and the parents are supporting them. Boy's parents are finding it difficult to find a suitable match and the boy/girl ratio is also diminishing and posing a major threat.
As you say the law is providing a means to free from the clutches of an abusive marriage, but I am afraid that sometimes the law is also misused.
Love,
PS

 

Dear Ramya,
Reasonable expectations are mostly fulfilled. When expectations change after marriage, and if they are unrealistic, it causes friction. Nowadays even stay at home girls expectations also has increased in manifold..
Love,
PS