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Sweety's Diary : A B'lore (Wipro) techie's wife ended her life...Wanna know Why?

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  1. forgiven10

    forgiven10 Silver IL'ite

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    I would not to say "Sweety is to be blamed for her suicide"....somehow, that doesn't sound kind and could infuriate her loved ones.......I do think that the decision of saving her life was entirely in her hands and her hands alone. In that sense, yes, she needed to call the shots in saving herself from this traumatic marriage. But everyone had role to play in creating this drama

    Mikku's parents: Selfishness: they wanted their son to be married to a girl they liked, also they wanted money, material things, dowry........they KNEW he had a girlfriend yet they forced him for an arranged marriage and willingly dragged this innocent girl (Sweety) into the jaws of torture....THEY KNEW IT WAS COMING but kept silent like how a lioness waits quietly for her prey.....afterall, don't parents know the nature of their son? Did they really think "shaadi ke baad badal jaaega?" I don't believe so, personally.

    Sweety's parents: Biggest mistake was to trust this guy and his evil family. Maybe they were distracted by his job, wealth, status, looks etc. However, character is most important in life. And they should have not given their dear sweet little daughter to a devil. To be honest, Sweety does not seem matured enough for marriage (Marriage is not a bed of roses) and the parents should have counselled, and mentored her. They should have protected and prepared her.

    Mikku: What can I say about him? Words do not exist in the english dictionary.

    Ramya: I personally feel Ramya could not have done anything to prevent Sweety's demise---- don't get me wrong, that's as far as Sweety's demise goes. However, Ramya surely is on the wrong side and deserves to be blamed/punished for nurturing Mikku's EMA.

    In hindsight, though the whole world seemed upside down, Sweety could have been more matured and faced reality with courage. Instead she was living in dreams and fantasies. The way she said in her diary "Today Smartu told me about Ramya....I am not bothered about this, I will tease him".....is very, very sad and childish----Recognizing this, and her would-be Inlaws' greed for dowry/money as two MAJOR RED FLAGS, Sweety should have shared everything with parents and taken a matured, informed decision to NOT MARRY THIS GUY. But she loved him and he made full use of it. This guy was such a villain that he pretended to love her before marriage (romantic calls, messages) just so he could trap her.....well, looks he thought she's a use and throw pen....very crafty guy indeed. Looks like the whole family is greedy and crafty.


    Well the age-old saga of humanity continues. The strong overpower the vulnerable, the rich mistreat the poor, the evil destroy the innocent.....it never ends. This world is a sinful and painful world, she just dreamt only of a colorful world. This really ought to be a lesson for all young women out there including myself. Never to be childishly possessive of a guy....never to be irrationally in love with a guy....never to value ANYTHING above my own life which is God's gift...and always expect the worst and thank God for the best. Though parents have lot of wisdom to offer to their kids, they can't ALWAYS be right- even they are human and they are don't understand certain aspects of their kids' generation. Specially one (girl or guy) should never give in to a marriage only for parents' sake....And we've got to realize that.....I feel that was a major point in Sweety's case....I feel the age is gone when "parents are the best at deciding your future life partner" ....yes, they are most welcome to contribute and be involved but they should not make decisions on our behalf....



    Sweety sis, you have touched so many hearts including mine........... :(
    May your family have justice and peace! May God avenge you sweetheart.......
     
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  2. indigirl

    indigirl Senior IL'ite

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    It is so saddening to see an innocent girl end her life for a scumbag.
    It is also ironical that even after knowing about the ills of mikku she confessed her love for him even at her last breadth. There are girls who are taught "Pati Parmeshwar" even in 21st century !
    Parents of all girl child should make their daughters strong enough to kick such men out of their lives when the need be.Also, had Sweety's parents given her the confidence from childhood that whatever be wrong they will always be there for her she woud have certainly got the strength to face this.With her qualification she would have certainly paved way for a beautiful life if there was moral support from parents/siblings or friends.

    In this entire episode the villain is the guy Mikku.I dont blame the girl Ramya as I feel Mikku might have certainly made stories to get her sympathy post his marriage to Sweety.
    May god give peace to Sweety's soul and strength to her family to face this tragedy. that guy shud never get happiness in his life!
     
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  3. Sayeeda

    Sayeeda New IL'ite

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    U r right dear,

    True, there's no other way out for such situations which depend on fate !
     
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    RestInPeace Sweety...! How sad! I wish justice is served.
     
  5. Mom2499

    Mom2499 Senior IL'ite

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    I blame both sets of Parents for this episode that took place. Sweety is a young girl/bride who only wanted the best for her to happen like any other girl in this world. What her expectations were - were NOT wrong.

    Mikku shouldn't have married Sweety when he carried another woman in his heart. That that was the biggest mistake that happens everywhere, everyday.

    Sweety's brother came for a visit - for what?????

    To console his sister or to help her to hurry up and end her life. He should have considered the mental condition of his sister and convinced her to go home with him. People pay attention to your Family and help where needed instead of crying your eyes out later.

    I am not sure why we talk so much of revenge here of punishing Mikku - What difference does it make NOW?
     
  6. Mom2499

    Mom2499 Senior IL'ite

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    Whatever happens don't lose faith in GOD.

    Don't blame GOD for all the nonsense that happens everyday. People have freewill and they choose their path. No one can be blamed for that except themselves.

    Sweety had major red flags right at the start but her young heart could only dream of a beautiful world ahead of her. So sad for her.
     
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    curlytweethere Platinum IL'ite

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    When i started reading this initially thought some girl was had her education left halfway was forced into marriage...but then further posts indicated she was a pg holder gold medallist!!!
    Is this our education system ?just adding degrees behind our names and medals to our shelves?? Will it ever teach us the courage to stand up for ourselves????
    Suicide was not an answer....sweety were u that stupid...i'm sorry but could not help saying it reading your diary before your marraige i felt was written by a 15 year old teenager with all movie style romance.. i'm not married or engaged or hve bf so i dont knw what it feels like but does that mean trust every thing blindly?? Did u know that guy before hand ..what made you love him just becoz he was a proposal your parents brought you..a SOFTWARE ENGINEER in bangalore earning lot of money who has chances of going abroad and blah blah blah....plz this is for other girls out there do not believe in any one blindly and especially if they say they have a girl friend and cannot stay away from her.

    And coming to this mahashay her husband....did not he knw when he was having an affair with other girl that his parents will not agree.. or did he not realize his love for ramya when he said yes to sweety's proposal or sending her all romantic messages...how was he able to send sweety all those ilu msgd when he was not able to forget ramya or put her out of his life...did not he have the courage to fight for his love with his parents...if he had planned to go to dubai and get married to ramya why did he not postpone or put away the marraige or atleast why did he have to behave as if he was interested in the marraiage....when he was able to give the date he'll be divorcing sweety why did he have to do all that drama of marraige

    His parents: Typical stereotypes...want son to marry a girl of their choice...does not bother what happens later

    her parents: our duty will be over if we get the daughter married..after that its not our headache...left to her and her husband(Plz parents plz dont be in this mindset..till date you would have bought her up like a small kid taking decisions on her behalf for everything and after marraige you expect her to take mature decisions overnight???)

    Ramya:You were in love ok. He was forced by his parents to marry another girl ok. you want to be his friend ..well wisher ok..but you dont have right over some one's husband whether they love each other or not ..that is their problem..whatever this guy would have said where did your thoughts go..when he said he'll divorce his wife and marry her did you not think that when he is able 2 divorce a girl whom his parents had chosen and may speak for her ...why not in future he would not divorce her for some one else...she would not have any one for her neither her parents nor his parents..

    Everyone in this case are responsible.
    Feeling very bad for sweety though she sounded like a bundle of energy with full of expectations ..it is a very sad thing that her life ended like this.

    Hope the other unmarried girls out there learn to say no to the proposals just becoz their parents want them to get married or they are getting older or they have younger sisters or blah blah blah....until they are 100% satisfied with the proposal.

    And guys..plz plz get some courage.. if you love some one and are not able to stand up for her and fight with your parents plz dont love...its better for you..your love and the innocent girl whom you'll get married on account of your parents force..if you cant fight and succumb to the pressure of your parents then plz forget your love and start a fresh life with your wife
     
  8. flowerlady

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    Hope Ramya will marry her jailbird , now that he is free , single and ready to mingle . Poor Sweetys sacrifice should not go in vain.
    But nobody follows these stories to let us know what happens later to the lovebirds.
     
  9. Harleez

    Harleez Senior IL'ite

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    The last paragraph of sweety's diary was heartbreaking. Her desperation came through so clearly. Parents need to empower girls to make their own decisions and live with strength. I was also raised to believe that women should not speak before father or husband..but eventually changed and i have to stand up for myself because although our parents and husbands may care deeply for us only you know what you need and what fulfills you. I wish that sweety had spoken up instead of burying her thoughts in a diary.
     
  10. Rakhii

    Rakhii Moderator IL Hall of Fame

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    Ladies, I think its a pre-planned murder. I mean, this could sure be a murder, according to NDTV: here is the extract:

    Bangalore: Parents of Aasti Shekhar (25), who reportedly hanged herself at her flat in Virupakshapura in Bangalore on June 3, have alleged that their daughter's husband and his family murdered her for dowry. The police have arrested Aasti's husband, Abhijit Sikandar, a techie, following a dowry harassment complaint filed by her father.

    Aasti's father Muralidhar Pathak, the principal of a Kendriya Vidyalaya school in Bihar, and mother Sarita Pathak met Joint Commissioner of Police (Crime) Alok Kumar, and filed a complaint against their son-in-law and his parents. Aasti's father said that Abhijit and his parents murdered her in a planned manner and made it look like a suicide.

    "Abhijit has tried to mislead the investigation by stating that Aasti committed suicide since she was unable to secure a job. She had just got married two months ago, so how can anyone believe something like that? In fact, she had got a job in a bank before marriage, but she did not report for duty, as she was getting married," he informed.

    He alleged that Abhijit was forcing her to bring more dowry and was not looking after her. "Though their wedding was lavish, he was demanding cash and other things like a car, furniture and air-conditioner. Aasti was murdered for failure to procure those things," he said. Meanwhile, he also accused Abhijit of having an extra marital affair with one, Ramya, his ex-colleague.


    "Aasti, in her diary, has mentioned that he used to turn the speakerphone on his mobile on and speak to the woman in front of her. He mentally harassed her by saying that Ramya did not want him to live with Aasti."

    Pathak added, alleging that Abhijit's parents, who also allegedly harassed the victim for dowry, came from Patna on May 25 just to put an end to Aasti's life. Joint Commissioner of Police (Crime), Alok Kumar, said that Abhijit was arrested as the police had evidence that he harassed the victim for dowry. "However, there is no evidence to conclude that Aasti was murdered and currently, investigation is on," he added.
     

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