So I have been trying to recollect this. What did I do when I was a 10 year old kid when there were no "Mobiles". Reason for my thoughts are below. My 10 year old nephew (elder sister's kid) has summer vacation. My sister and I stay in the same city but at different locations .My nephew is totally occupied in his vacation. Swimming, cricket coaching, table tennis coaching etc etc. In spite of his busy schedule my sister feels " that summer vacation feeling of going to grandma's house " is missing. His grandma (my mom) stays close to me. But grandma is still in service. So for him to come n stay with grandma is ruled out because he'll be bored once grandma goes to work. Grandpa can't keep him entertained all the time. So what I do I bring him in the weekends (weekdays I run to office and can't ask my in laws to entertain him plus all his coaching etc he can't come) so that he spends sometime here and sometime with grandma. We went for a walk then did some swimming for 1.5 hrs and I involved him some gardening and then what next? He's back to mobile phone watching his superhero fantasy series. My husband scolds me why you are letting him watch mobile . I said until I finish my weekend work why don't you entertain him. He accepts that challenge and sits with him for some board games. Chess, word building blah blah. Went for 2 hrs. Then next what back to mobile. Then after sometime TV time (again those cartoons which I felt are super useless) he's back to mobile. By evening it gets on my nerves and I grab the mobile and say " no more mobile sid, it's enough ". He gets angry and asks what should I do I don't have friends here to play. It's true . The lad is bored. He has his friends at his apartment complex with whom he plays . Probably making him spend his time alone will only lead him to that "mobile addiction ". Anyway the point of writing this is I went back the Memory Lane to understand what we did in summer vacation. 1) Go to grandparents house who generally stayed with one of the siblings of mom/ dad. . 2) I was never the only kid. We were in gangs . Every other cousin had a sibling. And dad/mom had many siblings . So when ever cousins met in summer vacation there were at least 10 15 of us of different age group. 3) No mobiles no TVs. All gang up. Played the whole day. 4) breakfast was usually previous day's rice with curds, mixed in watery consistency and mango pickle . (called vadu maangai ) . We never complained of old rice . When it came from grandma they were extra tasty no matter what. 5) entered home only during lunch time when the aroma of the sambhar and rasam spread the locality. Until then we never realised we are hungry. So engrossed in playing. 6) ladies never complained of cooking for so many kids . That too for a month or more than that .This was their routine. Now we complain right if guests come and stay for a week or more and when we have to cook more and run to office. At least I have complained. 7 ) Go back and play and keep waiting for that uncle (with whom we stayed during that summer ) to see if he's carrying any parcel in his hand while he returned from office at 5 30 PM. If he had a parcel then evening is a feast with all fresh bakery items. Freshly baked bun, Kara bun(masala bun) , congress kadlekaayi (a variety of mixture) , packets of rusk , oma podi mixture, fresh fresh puff ...what not. Ohhh my ...he never complained how buying all this for so many burnt a hole in his pocket. 8) Dinner part. All the sambhar rasam cooked for afternoon meal were in excess. So grandma's job was the mix one round of sambhar rice and we kids sit together in semi circle and grandma and aunty gave one big ball of that rice to each. Rounds and rounds of that sambhar rice, rasam rice and curd rice. Happy kids because they loved extending their hands for the tasty food and kept looking if other cousins got a bigger ball of rice than them and happy aunties who didn't have to wash all the plates which otherwise would be the case if everyone were given food separately . 9) sleeping time : sleep in a row on the floor. We never asked for beds. Lucky if you get a mat . Summers didn't demand any mat. We never complained of mosquitoes Two persons had to share a pillow. Then no bed sheets. 2 3 were given to all the 10 12 of them. Fight for the bed sheet until we had energy for the day. How the fight of pulling each other's bedsheet ended I can't remember. 10) But I remember getting up next morning and continuing the cycle with grandma's curd rice Good ol' days .What a happy bunch of kids we were and now I go mad with my nephew watching mobile phone all day . How can I blame him when we have chosen this kind of a lifestyle ? Aren't we responsible for this with our "one kid policy " , "independent family " , " husband wife both need to work " ,"want to settle abroad "etc etc . Where's the time for a full cousins (with me having no kids and his other cousins staying in the US - nephew is left with no cousins for summer vacation time) meet up in summer holidays and enjoy that delicious grandma's food sitting in semi circle .