Suggestions On Therapy For 9yr Old

As a parent whats your call? will you exposure your 9yr old to therapies? That being tender age, I am not sure what I should be doing?

My 9year old daughter, any parent who sees they wish for. She has hundreds of friends, everyone loves to play with her, be with her. Because, she is super nice. she always does what other wants, even if she hates do that. She never tells them, STOP even they take her for grant. she says, dont want to hurt other feelings. Never stands for herself. Works hours and hours on school projects, but loses grade because (if its a group project) other kid was telling to or capture details wrong and what group agrees they have to do it, end result low grade, after coming home cries, gets cranky all tantrums. Never breaks any rules at school, she started daycare when she is 2 months. From baby time till now, everyone says she goes by the rules. But now a days she is getting in trouble in school, because her partner is keep talking, she dont want to say stop to her to not hurt friend's feelings but gets in trouble with teacher, as teacher thinks she is talking. But she is not her friend it. Like this end less stories.

Why I mainly want to see therapist is: she cries a lot for everything. Like hey hurry up getting late is mean thing to say per her. Stand up for yourself is mean thing to say per her. Wear thick pants its cold outside is mean thing to say per her, countless. For all these cry cry cry.

Other than crying part, she is the best kid. Hugs, kisses me all the time. Keep talking to me non stop all the time. Very lovable child. Tried talking to her, said stop crying or cry first and then calm down but nope she wont talk at all goes on crying saying you are rude mean etc. Now days my husband , I and my teenage daughter are going crazy with her behaviour. Did it startes now, now always since she was baby.

What should I do?

 

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