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Stuck With A Liar - Please Suggest

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Lightsource, Oct 31, 2018.

  1. Deborah

    Deborah Gold IL'ite

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    @foxybeat - that is truly a horror story. Hugs to you!!
    Our instincts are right most of the time , giving us an idea about what we should do. But we generally tend to shut it out, giving benefit of doubt to the man in our lives, thinking all will change.
     
  2. Deborah

    Deborah Gold IL'ite

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    You are right , there is no such policy. Infact, the person cancelling his/her sponsorship has to provide a valid reason for doing this .So, he was actually doing all this behind your back.
     
  3. Lightsource

    Lightsource Senior IL'ite

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    Okay, Thanks for the information. Will see to it.
     
  4. Lightsource

    Lightsource Senior IL'ite

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    Thanks foxybeat for sharing your experience.

    You're situation was worse than me, but you have proved your will power and stood strong! Kudos to you! I have lost trust in men, still couldn't understood how these people take women for a ride. I have an intense urge to punish him, for all the deeds he has done to me and my family. I am not able to digest the idea of letting him Scot free. Unfortunately, expert's opinion is to get out of this rut, as soon as possible, instead of spending time and energy in penalizing him.

    Could you punish him in any way?
     
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    Lightsource Senior IL'ite

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    Yes, I get your point. Thanks Singhmanisha.
     
  6. Lightsource

    Lightsource Senior IL'ite

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    I totally agree. I have tried to shut my gut instincts for long time. I realize it only when I think back.
     
  7. Deborah

    Deborah Gold IL'ite

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    Nope. Although a feeling of revenge is justified but it will take a toll on you too. If you are able to get out of this smoothly ( no stretched out legal battle etc) , count your blessings and put your best foot forward .
    Just let karma do its work.
     
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    blooms4me Bronze IL'ite

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    Yeah, don't waste your time any more. What is over, is over. No use crying over spilled milk. Green card processes can take a long time, depending on his status. So look into that too. Try getting some help from your friends or family for some alternate accommodation. You will pull trough. Don't worry. Its just a bad phase of life now.
     
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    There was a time when I wanted his family and him to die in the worst way possible for what they had all done to me, but what does that do for me ..... does it get me back my life.... So its ok to have such thoughts but its better for us to come out of it and be strong and move forward !

    Over time you will get used to the idea of letting him go.
     
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    LifeInPieces New IL'ite

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    Seems like you need to get out of this mess. SOON!
     

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