Stopped talking with ils!!!

Ask your husband to give you the phone when she says things like she miss you etc. otherwise dont talk and dont discuss this topic with husband...that should be your technique.

 

Hi,

I second jhillmill.
Also if that doesnot work, and if ur husband starts the topic you can tell him the same dialogues... U too miss her... U too would like to talk to her bla bla... But tell him cos of time difference u dnt get time to call her or also u can tell u called her but she dnt pick the call.

 

Ask your husband to take the other phone when you are talking and ask him to listen to what you talk. Or put the phone on speaker and talk whenever you do. That ways he will come to know of his mom's cunning nature..

 

Follow the above suggestions !!!

 

Hi,

It always happens .... Do one thing... talk whenever your hubby calls them. Don't make call on your own... If your husband pressures you then tell him they don't talk in a likely way.... If he don't believe tell him to join the call by other phone without exposing himself then you will call otherwise you don't (Like whenever your IL believe he will be in office you are alone calling her from home)...then he can know their true color with you ....It is tough to make him accept doing this... but there is no other way to prove ourselves...

Wife is always an easy target for men than their mother and sisters...
point everything on her... problem solved...

We have to prove ourselves...

 

Tulip,
This is a battle, Indian wives can never win. We will always be at the losing end. Its not even worth fighting. Just make the damn call once a month or so, just like some mundane ritual. Just stop giving importance to whatever she says/don't say,etc. Its tough done than said. But trust me, you will get used to it. Atleast you have a husband who understands they are making you unhappy. There are husbands like mine, who are hell bent on blaming me for every damn thing.

 

Best solution, only call in your husband's presence, that too call on a speaker phone, and let her know that her calls are being taken on speaker phone, so that your husband hears and knows everything. And make him chide her when she makes a bad comment as to kya hai ma, kya faltu ki baat kar rahi ho? etc.

 

Your husband is scared that his relation with his mom will be hampered if you don't talk.

So discussing with him will be futile and if he discusses with you the focus should be on you...like instead of badmouthing her focus on your problems and tell him coz he cannt stand for you atleast you deserve your peace of mind and for that if his mother is emotionally blackmailing him he needs to deal with it.

So ask him to deal with his mom if he is **** scared you can't help it...you are someone else's daughter.

Don't be scared about the cracks in relation, just don't nag n fight ...try to be bold. Tell him last time you had a fight and you are choosing peace this time and if he's wise enough he better deal with it.