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Stopped Talking .what Would U Do..

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Sangeeta85, May 7, 2018.

  1. Sangeeta85

    Sangeeta85 Gold IL'ite

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    i have completely stopped talking to inlaws from past 5 months ..it’s good but husband and son talk to them and I don’t stop them either bcz I don’t like mom n son not talking or have bad relation.. but inlaws are fine they never bothered to ask y m not talking or even ask me.. I don’t want to either bcz now I can’t tolerate mil voice . But my probl is once we r going to meet,it will happen how to react or what to say or do ..
     
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  2. senoritaaa

    senoritaaa Bronze IL'ite

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    Hope your visit will be a short vacation. In that case, just act as if nothing has happened at all...Behave normal way.
     
  3. Sangeeta85

    Sangeeta85 Gold IL'ite

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    Ok .
     
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    Star25 Gold IL'ite

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    If I were you , in your situation, I would call them once or twice before meeting them, just to break the silence otherwise it would be a delicate moment for either of them to see each other and not know what to talk.. It would be kinda awkward at the time of meeting .. if i find they are talking casually without keeping anything in mind then I would talk freely till the time of the stay :grimacing:
     
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    sheztheone Platinum IL'ite

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    Time is the best healer in such cases.

    I would suggest that you start not by talking but by sending them a simple message or wish on WhatsApp/other for any upcoming occasion.
    See how that goes.
     
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    Sangeeta85 Gold IL'ite

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    Yeah but I don’t feel like to talk but I have to wen I meet them so .. but I don’t want to get close to them at all it’s too much stress they are worst .. this time I want to be selfish and just think of myself ..just to be easy n happy when I am there..
     
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    poovai Platinum IL'ite

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    This is a maturity, it will come to you.... became a softer person in nature over time. May be, it is part of becoming a mom.

    You need to develop tolerance towards others even when you think, they are unfair to you.

    Learn to play their drama. Yep, it's like playing a :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:dual role. Not to show 'what do you think', it should not reflect in your face.
     
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    VinuthaS Silver IL'ite

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    Dear OP ... can relate to what you are going through... there is no need for you to carry the baggage of not talking to them ( thali ek hath se nahi bajthi ) have they made any extra effort to have any conversation with you ???
    Just ignore and stay at peace ... when u are there just be normal ... if you continue to feel the way you do than , once you are there may be you will end up doing some thing more out of guilt or some thing unnecessary out of dislike ... I hope I am able to convey my thoughts ...
    Do the usual shopping for gifts etc meet every one , have a good time ..
    Let this not hamper your holiday and later not in your life in any other way ...
    All the best ...
     
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    No
    yes I do lack maturity n I learnt hard way ppl make use of me.. yes it shows on my face if I m mad .. I will try to control
     
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    No they did not make any effort when ever dh and my son talks they hear me speak to my son but do not ask me ..it’s always they don’t ask me I have to go talk just bcz I m dil and she is the mil she thinks she is above all.. yes I will keep in Mind I don’t go overboard to just make mil feel good since I m a pussy cat so I will just get scared and do all but this time I want my time I want to be happy relax have fun ..
     

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