Hi girls , i have a peculiar problem that is threatning my 9 month old marriage. We had an arranged marriage and we are both hindus from the same community. But my Husband follows a spiritual path of the tradition of sant mat. The problem is that his faith disapproves of idol worship and the regular hindu rituals. Before we got married i did not have a clear idea about his faith. Now i find it very hard to adjust with him. The Sant mat tradition people often try to pose that they are unique and blessed because they are initiated by a True Master. I found this attitude too exclusive in my husband and his satsangi friends. My husband often make remarks which make me feel wretched. Although he is a nice person but his involvement with this spiritual group makes me feel like an outsider in his life. I don't feel comfortable around his friends because they talk only of their Master and their philosophies which are sometimes even anti-hindu. My husband perhaps expects me to accept his Guru as the only true living Guru because i am married to him. But i am not comfortable with this, one because i have my own faith in Hindu religion and do not wish to give up my rituals even if they do not mean anything. two because even after reading a lot about this santmat tradition i am not convinced, especially becuase it sounds exclusivist at times. i would have preffered a more secular group like Gayatri Pariwar instead. My husband is an intelligent guy and i usually am at loss of words when i have to explain to him how i feel about it. I even felt hurt several times when he made some remarks about me being an athiest (does being an educated Indian girl with a mind of my own and not accepting anything that does not agree with me make me an athiest??) :? I feel hurt because i have lot of faith in God and am not really an athiest instead i feel best when i visit a temple or a worship place. I would have liked to continue respecting my husband's faith but he makes cutting and sarcastic remarks which hurt me. I even feel that the path he is following is fundamentalist because of the exclusive manner it claims to give enlightenment to the initiated. All this makes me deppressed and i often get into arguements with my husband. Is there some way to resolve this confllict? :bang Thanks for reading.