something cannot be shared with someone in the family

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I agree with you and I also feel that they might be thinking about us too, in a similar manner.(It is possible.)

Sriniketan

 

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But then again men don't attach emotions to most things unlike women. So in general, men don't feel so sad or depressed too often. Women can't settle for less than what they have in their minds, so if their spouse isn't upto their standard in terms of sharing, friendship etc then the woman gets angry, sad, lonely.

 

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very true... This is our indian culture.....

 

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with:
the in-laws---->greatness about your family always.
everybody-----> your weakness

Sriniketan

 

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hi Nivi,

ur post is really something to think a lot. When i got married i was in dillemma when my SIL created problem for me what do MIL can't listen anything against her daughter and we were youngest so husband will never listen against her elder sister but i felt it's too much torturing when i started getting headache, i never used to complain for anything but this was a turn effecting my health which made me to complain about her and made him to see what his sister thinks about not only me but for him too as he is not aware what is going behind his back. I had only one good point we are always friendly true friends whoever does mistake admit it and no chance for next time . He himself saw everything but couldn,t do anything to maintain their respect but no egos in front of me and suggested me what shall i do to come out of this situation without effecting his image in front of his parents. I think if husband are little understanding we must speak out or we will end up no where. Always men say at last when things are in worst why u didn't informed me earlier, i don't know what is going on behind me, u must take care inform me. So i think not always but when something is really spoiling we must open our mouth for our and family betterment.

bye
padma

 

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yes. its right.:2thumbsup:

 

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Hi:

Well, I think I would slightly differ from your say. It all depends on how you started at the very begining of married life. "First impression is the best impression" truly holds in this situation. After all, we are dealing with human subjects, not machines, and they are subject to emotions and it is a sensitive matter. I agree it is a tough assignment, however, the level of friendship we wish to define with our spouses is something in our hands. In my case, I and him will discuss everything under the sky! Any sensitive decision will be taken in consulting mutually and till date we are best friends! We have our goals well set and defined, from simple trivial matters to bringing up kids and moulding their future, dealing with relatives, etc etc...in all kinda planning!

I agree that not all topcis are to be discussed with others (other than spouse) and it is true with any relationship. With husband, you just get that extra mile, beyond friendship and barriers break to discuss anything under the roof!

So, my friend, again, it is a mind game! Cheers...

Bye from, Jayashree