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Socializing In Pandemic

Discussion in 'Friends & Neighbours' started by sanjuruby3, Jul 10, 2020.

  1. sanjuruby3

    sanjuruby3 Gold IL'ite

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    I want to ask, are you guys meeting friends or inviting friends at home, single family not group and keep masks on.

    My kids feel really desparate to play with other kids. Since we live in own house, we have to invite her friend. In apartments, I hear, they are gathering outside to play so in her friend circle, she is like left out with no one to play. She keeps asking she wants to talk to friends, play with them. Everytime i give her virus excuse, feels so bad and she calms down. What to do?
    I am thinking to start taking them out now.
    My H is not very active to engage them. He has his own excuses, its hot outside , tired sleepy, so he won't engage them and my girl is not very sporty herself. And I on the other hand, have to cook, feed and plan all the meals since we have jobs also.

    I am scared to ask anyone because they might say 'no' and don't want anyone to feel exposed in our home.

    Then on the other hand, one of our bachelor friend, is excited to come and i do not want him to come over since he stays in and on couch in front of TV, whole time and stays for long time and comes usually late in the evenings and stays till midnight. It gets very hard for me and now situation is completley different. I want more outdoors and less indoor seating. Moreover, since he is bachelor and by nature, he does not follow protocols or strictness for covid. H is hard to talk into anything anyways.
     
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    netflx Silver IL'ite

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    Did you travel via special flight to US? How was the flight journey experience?

    You can consider asking any close friends if they are comfortable visiting for 1 hour or 2, with following covid protocol. Tell them no pressure to accept invitation, and how much or less time is upto them.
     
  3. Angela123

    Angela123 Gold IL'ite

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    If you don't feel comfortable say no.
    That being said, we do socialize with one of the friends. They are a family of four, I know they are working from home and keeping kids at home and are very careful about the situation. So we go to their house and they come to our house.
    You can do social distancing play date. Its hard, but we have done it.
    Kids rode their bikes outside, no masks. no touching or no close contact. We parents sat on driveway 6 ft apart. Again, i knew this family very well and they were not going outside, not even for grocery.

    It all depends on your level of comfort and trust with the friends.
     
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    sanjuruby3 Gold IL'ite

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    Yes, not easy... added by fear and maks /suits and riing temps and kids in laps.. it was v hard but we did it and i am glad. last few months were traumatic for me at ILs house so atleast i am in my house now.
     
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    sanjuruby3 Gold IL'ite

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    All of our friends go out for groceries or beach keeping distance ofcourse. COVID has made life so hard, i really do not know how to keep my sanity. Kids keep me crazy.
     
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    Angela123 Gold IL'ite

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    Is there any classes that you can sign the kids up for? Our school district has a summer learning program for a month. My kid is doing that. There might be something through the school or summer camps, mostly free or with reduced fee. It is hard to entertain kids. I keep a schedule, but my kid seems busy even if she doesn't check all of the listed items and i keep her bed time at 8.30. If you live in a house, give them house chores or outside work, even in an aprtment I am sure there are things that they can do. Also most libraries have started pick up curb side, may be use that? Just sanitize the books and keep it away for 48 hours before you start reading. That's what we do. I read with my kid for 30 mins at night, even though she is capable of reading herself. Once in a while she complains about being bored, and then i give her chores in kitchen, after that I feel she appreciates free time more. There is no right or wrong way to do this. We all are going thru this hard time. So do what works for you!
     
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    My kid is not interested in any chore that i ask her to do. She actually is going through a phase...she hates me anyways... I stop her from watching too much TV then added by recent stay in India and lack of H support.. Only thing she does is she puts her cup in sink many times if i ask her. Other than that, no. so its rare.... she will put plates on dinner table.

    I will for sure look for summer programs. Are they remote or in- person.
    Also how do you guys manage kids with work? for younger kids, do you send them day-care or nanny?
     
  8. Thyagarajan

    Thyagarajan IL Hall of Fame

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    :hello:There is perpetual risk lingering outdoors and COVID virus waiting in wings to grab some human cells with open arms.
    Added to this officially it is in air that virus seems to be air borne.
    The advisory is outdoor activity only if it is strictly urgent or emergent.
    Improvise games and rouse curiosity to play and learn only indoors. Never believe nor call any neighbours or strangers to help unless you are very sure that they strictly follow safety norms.
    There is no mask exactly fitting kids face. Improvised masks for kids seem to be ineffective and not 100 % safe.
    God Bless.
     
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    They are remote classes. My kid is 9, so I let her use ipad or her chrome book for a few hours. She uses apps like SCRATCH, Minecraft and watched videos on youtube kids. Keeping kid indoor will involve a lot of effort for the parents. We try to do a physical activity at least for an hour, this is in our yard or small patio.
     
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