So, How Were You Judged On Your Parenting Choices?

I have two sons - 5.5 yrs n 3 yrs. I have a support system at home to take care of them. I go to dance classes two days a week.

That makes me a bad mom. A mom is supposed to think only of her kids after they are born but not of herself.

Ealier I used to sit n cry sometimes but now I have started to ignore all those comments.

 

Aah, last week. LA airport, super-delayed flight. What was supposed to be a 1.5 hr layover extended to well over 6 hours. 8.30 PM and 2.5 more hours for our flight. My husband and I were exhausted after trying to see if we could get on an earlier flight, but nothing worked out. We were flying in from another country, so we had to go through immigration and customs and re-checking of bags etc. and had to walk across terminals to look for alternative flights etc. We finally gave up and reached the gate we were supposed to be at and found 2 empty chars by sheer luck! My older DD - 6 yr old was quietly sitting reading her book. My little one - 2 yr old had gotten all her rest while we were going through the process of re-checking our bags and walked through the security etc, and was now super active. She wasn't being disruptive or anything, but just running around and being silly. We tried as much as we could to contain her, but the gates were all crowded and people's bags were everywhere. Older lady (you can ask the race!!) gave us such a disapproving look and kept shaking her head looking at my little one running here and there, rolling her eyes and muttering something while doing that. I apologized and tried to hold my daughter, but it did not seem like it would work. I did not want her to start screaming/crying which would have been worse for all the people there.

There was another family with a slightly older child who was calmly sitting and his parents had him entertained with an iPad. While the other family got nods and approving smiles from the lady, we got stared down A LOT with raised eye-brows and shaking head etc. We felt extremely judged and were wishing we had a magic wand we could wave to make my child sit in one place. When it got a little too much, I whisked her away and took her to a further end where about 40 minutes was spent going up and down an escalator. Another 20 minutes was spent walking around the airport when we finally got called for boarding! Never have I been so anxious to get home from a vacation!!

 

I been raised extremely depended and I felt that made me lack confidence even now. When I raised my DD, it was very important for me that she should not be like me and must be self confident and very independent.

Her 16 th birthday was arranged by herself, ( calling the venue, event planner, cake etc) One of the girl ( 16 year old) who had attended the party went and bitched her mom saying its was my DD who arranged everything, her parents (Me and my DH) acted as if we were "guest". Her mom told someone saying we are not too involved in my DD's life and what she did not know that that someone is my BFF .

One thing I'm very proud about my DD is she is very confident and independent ( at times a bit more than I want her to be) and she never bitch about anyone. As of now, I feel I did a decent job with her.

 

My 5 year old DD looks slight. All I'll say is I try to be a sensible mum giving her child sensible food and ensure she has enough physical activity. She's tall and thin and lithe.

Indians (I'm not playing the race game!) tell me she is weak and she needs more ghee butter and sugar in her body. And they also tell me I'm squeezing all the joy out of her life by not offering her chocolates and sweets and crisks and fries.

I'm also being regimental (and squeezing the joy out of her life) by asking her to pay attention while she's in an extra curricular class. Teaching her to make an effort is apparently wrong. Also getting her to practice at home is wrong - the child needs more free time.

She is a voracious reader and if, on her own, buries her face in a book instead of asking for gadgets or telly, there's tutting because the poor child doesn't realise how she could enjoy herself as her parents haven't shown her... sounds positively Dahl-esque doesn't it!

 

No, you are not a bad mom.From my perspective you are someone who takes care of yourself too and enjoying life apart from kids.you are fine dear

 

My turn
You are a good mom trying her bestest. Period. Rest doesnt matter.