Signs Of Aging…

1. Don't care what others think
2. Don't like to go out to movies and prefer watching them from the comfort of my home (if at all)
3. Prefer home cooked food to outside food
4. Find peace listening to classical music to filmi music
5. Find meaning and can relate to contents of spiritual texts
6. Lost travel-lust and feel like staying home is the best (though I do regret having missed traveling when I had the interest to travel)
7. Lost patience to beat around the bush and be diplomatic. Prefer shooting straight from my mouth. I stopped respecting people for their age and tolerating their bulls@!t but instead have learned to respect actions of people and learn even if they are younger than me!!
8. By 730 pm I have to be home and in my PJs. Thankfully my outside chores get over by 7 during weekdays and earlier on weekends.
8. I like my grey hair

Finally, I feel like a completely different person - especially in the past few months because I changed the way I looked at my life after deep introspection and it's made a 360 degree change in my life for good.

 

For me the major sign of aging is "Planning gals night out with friends, telling hubby not to expect me home until 2 am but come home by 11 pm cos we all just cant stop yawning"

 

How do you know or conclude “our preferences”? Or
is it a generalisation that members in IL would generally prefer those ten items you had listed.

Finally your jotting concludes with words - signs of ageing .
So i assume your intent is that member considers which of the items of leisure/activity that promotes ageing gracefully or retards the process of ageing.

Summer is not a welcome in tropical climates. It promotes ageing i believe. But that is only among the class of people exposed to summer in day out.

A stroll after dinner in cool and calm weather is good indeed. One may prefer spending time under starry sky on a terrace or nearby beach or shore. Stroll after dinner recommended for better digestion.

Writing or texting a letter to darling or billet-doux needs quite quietness but this is nothing to do with ageing process. But an old man writing for or directing romantic part of a movie may get to think of himself being young and youthful! Such acts do contribute for retarding

Peace is to be felt inside in our body & mind though Outside home, it may be peaceful. Peace after a battle or quarrel especially with in-laws or spouse is eerie. Persons never given to negative emotions reported ageing slowly anf gracefully.
Tight fit no good at indoors. PJs most comfirtable. But still better choices are there. But if there are mosquitoes around even in day time one has to take precautions. Chicken Guinea attributed to day time mosquitoes.

Point 7. Plain speaking all times not necessary. Discussion better than dialogue.
Point 8,9 & 10 a volume can be written . We can take a leaf out of every biographer celebrity.

Thank God you did get that mood to introspect and reshaped replanted and start reliving radiating charm & cheer around you. In the day to day busy life working lady and men may not have a moment to look at the morning & evening sky

 

The most common one is "I have had enough... I don't care any more!" Most of us, 40+ ladies, are in that mode already.

My personal fav is breaking any generational cycle of unquestioned, taken for granted things. eg My mother and her mother were always there for the family. I can easily list the times when she dismissed any request from me or my sibling only to attend to something pertaining to an elder in the family or some member of the extended family. I don't do that. And for that I am nicknamed a wierdo or even a moron!

I have been bad at responding to suggestions of social visits, get togethers, etc. always (an introvert homebody) but more since after my child was born. She is my priority and I refuse to let anyone or anything come in my way of being there for her. There are misunderstandings. There are allegations and confrontations- How can a preteen's athletics practice be more important than a visit by an NRI relative (who has somehow managed to take time out of her busy schedule to meet up)? Why can they not miss her Chess tournament to attend a distant relative's son's thread ceremony? Can she not answer that exam some other time instead of missing that second cousin's wedding ceremony? God! I start fuming within but then I cool down reminding myself that I am going against the tide, trying to break the cycle. There will be unpleasant ramifications.

And well wishers sending over cooked food or sweetmeats are more of a nuisance than a help or whatever. I mean no disrespect to the food (anna parabrahm and all that) or the efforts but why send over dishes cooked using recipes nobody in my household appreciates or relishes. Anyway. I digress.