My brother and SIL married 9 yrs back. They really desperately want a baby and they are still waiting that to happen. I feel very sad because they're sad and not happy. They're both over-weight (especially SIL is suffering from obesity) and they say they exercise, eat right but I don't know why - they haven't lost any weight. May be this is preventing from having a baby , may be not. They are visiting the same doctor for 5 years. In 5 yrs they had 3 IUIs, 1 IVF - all failed. Apparently, after 5-6 weeks there is a miscarriage. Now again, they will try for another IVF after corona situation settles down . I have brought up the topic of adoption twice to my bro in all these yrs but he very clearly said - "we both are against adoption, so don't bring up this topic again." My parents are very broad-minded and they are completely in favor of adoption. Also, we never discuss this topic with my SIL because we don't want to hurt her emotions in anyway. She is very sensitive to this topic. Also, she has never ever brought up this topic to us by herself. We have many relatives who have legally adopted kids and we have witnessed success. How can I encourage my brother to take adoption route instead of trying for more IVFs and then a surrogate route.. I wouldn't have encouraged someone for adoption if I had doubts as in ... I know my bro and SIL are very good people and they would take care of the baby so much once they have the adopted baby home. They will be good parents - I am positive. FYI - my bro has completely shut us (me and mom, dad) off and he doesn't like anyone to bring baby topic up. My parents also think adopting is better than IVF because IVF has a big cost associated with it without any guarantee that it will work. My brother and SIL don't earn a lot to afford it. We all have helped them in the past but it is all difficult. Another reason for adoption over IVF is : my mom feels my SIL will finally have a baby and she won't be sad anymore. Also, SIL going through the injections and all, my mom can't see her DIL going through all of this. How can I tell my bro (talking to SIL is impossible) , that adoption can change your lives in so many beautiful ways.