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  1. ansh12

    ansh12 Bronze IL'ite

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    Hi ILites

    This forum is meant for life after separation. The life as such is laden with pebbles and stones , not always a bed of roses. The life after sepration is bit more harder.

    Through this forum, lets share our fears, our anguish, our concerns, our joys, our happiness. We all can be an extended family. We can be there for each other, to lend ears, can help to lessen grief and multiply joys. We can be there for all ILites in their celebrations as well as in their sadness.

    It is said best way to forget about your hardships and grief is to make someone else laugh, to share someone else grief, bring lighter moments in life while not ignoring the important ones.

    Today, I invite all ILites, married, unmariied, separated, widowed to share their experience about "waiting". Everyone has have to wait in life for someting. Sometimes waiting was bliss and sometime it was a pain. I have scribbled few lines on wait

    here they go

    Wait
    Waiting for you
    like wait of parched land for a drop of rain
    wait of terminally ill patient to walk again
    wait of a lonely heart to get a kiss
    eternal wait, wait, this is what I hate

    I yearn, my wait for you be
    like a pregnant mother to see her new born
    an engaged couple from courtship to honeymoon
    like a bride for her first embrace
    an athlete to step on victory dais
    like a child to open his birthday surprise
    I wish, wait could be a bliss


    My wait was bliss when, I was expecting my baby and was dying for completion of nine months to see, whom would he/she resembles. Every wait relating to activity of my duaghter was a bliss, when wil lshe turn on her back, when will she start sitting, when will she utter mom and so on .....

    My wait was painful when I had to wait for her surgery to be done, when I had to wait endlessly for things to fall in place with my husband.

    So, Ilites, let me know, if wait brought tears and joys to your life

    Love
    Ansh
     
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  2. Ria2006

    Ria2006 Silver IL'ite

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    Wait.. Wonderful and painful word. Its one word which can keep you engrossed, hooked and also frustrated sometime.

    For me, wait only has added beauty and wisdom in everything I did or chose.
    Like for my sister's wedding, we had hard time finding right guy. It was a long wait. But a good wait. When my BIL's proposal came through, my father was not even sure if it will work. Because we had our remote cousin aunt's daughter married in same house. And that cousin aunt had anything but well wishes for us. Reason, at one point my dad rejected her profile for him. People nurse their wounds too long. But I convinced my father to still give a whole hearted try. He finally went and things worked out in two weeks. I still get credit from everyone for this.

    Then wait was engg selection. I had burnt all midnight oil in preparing for entrance. While taking exams, I knew in exam room that I will get through three out of four competitions I had prepared for. I came back home, and told my father to prepare for my hostel expenses. He was kind of shocked to see his normally non-boasting daughter claiming big. But I did get calls for all those three colleges. The wait to get in to the college was just too much.

    Then the first job, I was branch opener in my college to get first job. I still remember the hysteria college and hostel had for my job celebration. We all had a on-spot dance party in college canteen. Something we have never done. There were some 400 boys and girls. Half of them I didnt know. Thats different thing that it shooted my semester expenses. It costed me 5000 rs ten years back.. Thanks to my dad, to not say anything.He was too happy for my job too. After getting the job, we had to wait tio finish college and then join. That wait to have first salary in hand was just too much,

    After that only thing I had waited was my marriage. Though I didnt really want it early. But I enjoyed the wait persuing my hobbies, studies and having lots of friends. And I would say, hubby's proposal was best one for my taste. Even though I rejected lots of so called hi-fi profiles. But they didnt have what I was looking. When I first talked to my now-hubby. I Knew this is right blend I am looking. So wait was all worth here too.

    Now I would say, I am waiting to have my kid in my life. Another wait would be to get my favorite University award me my favorite degree. I am waiting for one more thing, to open a small school in some remote village in India and run it in my old age. Seeing some kids from that school become big will be my ultimate wait realized.
    Cheers
    Ria
     
  3. ansh12

    ansh12 Bronze IL'ite

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    Wow Ria

    Well written. My wait to gte reply for this thread was also wonderful and justified as I got wonderful reply from you.

    I wish you all the very best for all all your waits to end soon.

    When you open the school, do give me a chance to teach there.

    I :bowdown to u for nuturing this dream,as most of the people going abroad forget their motherland and never ever return home.


    Love
    Ansh
     
  4. itsmeteddy

    itsmeteddy New IL'ite

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    Hi Ria, Wonderful post. Just inquisitive about you favourite degree?? what is it???
     
  5. SoaringSpirit

    SoaringSpirit Silver IL'ite

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    Very nice thread Ansh.

    Ria, nice to read your wonderful waits! And all of them turned out with such stellar results at the end! Great going.

    I had a tough time picking a few from my huge list J. Luckily, for me too all waits have proven one thing - it all ends up nice and pretty at the end!

    - The most poignant wait in my life until now was the wait for my Mom to recover from a heart aliment. I was in the 5<SUP>th</SUP> grade then. It happened to her out of the blue. One fine morning she woke up and started to feel uneasy. By that evening she had collapsed – her heart had completely stopped. She had a heart block. Luckily we were in the hospital by then and the doctors were able to resuscitate her. Normally it took a person 24-48 hrs to come out of danger. It took her 9 days to come out of danger. She was in the ICCU for a few weeks and it was a 4 month long recovery process from there on. She came home after 4 months and with a pacemaker in her body.
    The wait to get a normal life back and have Mom around again was the toughest wait I have experienced so far. And I hope it was the last wait I experience of this kind. It was a wait that toughened me up and made me realize early on in life to never take anything for granted, to make the most of what I have and to enjoy every day to the hilt.

    - Wait to one day meet some of the people I look up to. JRD Tata and Kiran Bedi, to name a few. I could never meet JRD (I still regret that very much!). I did meet Kiran Bedi a couple of times. Among other things, I am very passionate about women’s issues and women/girl child empowerment and she epitomizes that. So I got a lot of good insights from her. The day I met her the first time, is still vivid in my memory. I was in 12<SUP>th</SUP> grade then.

    - Wait to ensure that the guy I got married to thinking he is the ideal life partner for me, is indeed the ideal one! This one was the sweetest wait of all! I think it takes a couple of years to ensure that the choice you made was indeed the best. Needless to say, the wait was rewarded much more generously than I could ever wish for! J

    - I have a fancy for fast cars and for driving fast. It was one of my dreams to drive on Germany’s Autobahn one day because it had no speed limits. 3 years ago my wait ended when we made a trip there, just for driving pleasure! Well, now the Autobahn does have speed limits on some portions. But some portions still have no speed limits. I was no match to some of the speed buff German drivers but I enjoyed myself to the hilt. J

    - Then there is the everyday wait to get home and be with my kids and husband.

    - I wait for the day when I will be able to contribute meaningfully in empowering women and the girl child from all strata of society, to lead a content and happy life. To help them learn to live in harmony and co-exist happily with everyone around them, yet feel empowered to chart their own course of life.

    - I wait for the day I can be of service to old people who do not have near and dear ones to care for them. I would love to bring sunshine in their life every single day with my company and my service to them.

    SS
     
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  6. Bhooma

    Bhooma Bronze IL'ite

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    Let me add my two cents worth here ...

    having come to this stage in life .. I dont have many things to wait for ....

    except...

    I would like to be financially so independent that I would spend the rest of my life .. what I have been craving to do ..

    yes ... start a boarding kennel for dogs !!!!

    i wait for that day when i can do that ..

    cheers

    Bhooma
     
  7. ansh12

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    Hi SS

    My wait to see you post in this thread is over and it was really worth it.

    Again, you wrote so beautifully. You mince even a single word.

    Wow! you met Kiran Bedi. I have lot fo admiration and tremendous respect for this lady.

    I met Mrs Sudha Narayan Murthy. I was so excited to meet her. She is epitome of simplicity, courage and self-confidence. I wish there would have been more ladies like her.

    I wish all your waits get over quickly as they are in philanthropic interest.

    Best wishes

    Ansh

     
  8. ansh12

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    Thanks Ma'am

    Past two days, talks are oing on at my home whether to get a pup or not, as both my duaghter and me are dog lovers, but, since both of us are not at home during day till 3 o'clock (myself till 5) so, we are re-considereing our decision whetehr to get a pup.

    What would you advice?

    Best regards
    Ansh
     
  9. SoaringSpirit

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    Mrs. Murthy is another lady I admire hugely. I want to spend just a day with her to see how she does it. Her simplicity and simple living are the things that amaze me the most.

    Lucky you Ansh to have met her. I am sure it was a memorable meeting.
    SS

     
  10. ansh12

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    Yes SS

    It is memorable and will stay with me for ever. She was surprised to know that I had read her Interview in RD. She was the first lady to have joined Tata's. She wrote a strong letter to JRD Tata, when the post advertised for mech Engg. mentioned males applicant may apply. I don't remember the contents of the letter. But, if i get I will forward them to you.

    After receiving the letter, JRD Tata called her and she was grilled for over two hours(A sensible man of those days could only have done that, I don't think any Industrialist of today would give such an encouragement) and then she was offered a job.

    Ansh

     

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