Taking care of oneself- both physically and mentally is an important part of overall wellness. In fact, it is a discipline one should practice making the life worthwhile and meaningful. True self-care doesn’t just involve pleasant things that we want to bring to our lives. It isn’t about escaping from life. It is about building a life we don’t want to escape from. Self-care is conscious, intentional activity or habit that aides in the process of personal advancement, including emotional, physical, spiritual and social growth. How does it differ from selfishness? Selfishness is putting our desires ahead of the needs of others whereas self-care is putting our needs ahead of the desires of others. It has been drilled into our mind that being selfish is a sin and therefore we take the extra mile to label many things that falls strictly under self-care. Any thoughts, words and actions that is done out of self-love, protect and preserve self-esteem, strengthen self-confidence, and bring self-satisfaction are not selfish thoughts, words, and actions. Self-care is like a foundation of the building. While self-esteem acts like the steel rods, self-confidence acts like the asphalt poured into the foundation. Self-satisfaction is the water that is poured to cure and strengthen the foundation. Without self-love, the house of life built will not have a stronger foundation. “Put oxygen mask over your face before putting it on your travel companion who needs help” is the announcement made by the flight attendant before the flight departs. Is she encouraging everyone to be selfish? It is about building strength to ourselves before we can help others who needs help. It is not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It is necessary for growth and development of life. Selfish mindset is about thinking only about my needs even if it is detrimental to the interest of others whereas self-love is thinking about myself and how my needs can be fulfilled without hurting the needs of others. Throwing out a stale food in the fridge after finding it with fungus is not only self-care but also taking care of the interest of others. On the contrary, finishing up a tasty food in the fridge exclusively myself without keeping a portion for others is pure selfishness. When I ask for help from others when they are able is self-care whereas demanding others thinking they are always available to meet my needs is selfishness. Loving and appreciating others mainly for what they can do for me, while thinking I am the most important person in the world is selfishness whereas loving and appreciating others for who they are, while knowing that I am the most important person in my world is self-care. Self-care would include deciding my priorities, curiosity, and exploration of my interests, slow down when I feel like winding up, taking a break for pleasure, improving my physical and mental well-being, self-awareness, self-support, self-acceptance, kindness to something I really like, choices that I make to satisfy myself, preferring to pay more attention to what I like, etc. Physical self-care would include sleep, stretching, walking, exercising, nutrition and diet plans, yoga, etc. while emotional self-care would include stress management, coping skills, compassion, therapy, journaling, etc. Social self-care would include setting up boundaries, setting up support system to rely upon in need, positivity in life, social media communication, determining friends, etc. while spiritual self-care would include time alone for contemplation, meditation, prayer, spending time out in the nature and visiting sacred places, etc. Walking away after a stressful confrontation is self-care as much as taking a nap over the weekend to recharge the batteries. Self-care should come naturally to everyone and in stressful homes, one should set up standards by repetitively emphasizing the need for self-care. One should never feel guilty when they are working on self-care. When someone is mourning for the loss of their loved ones, seeking a simple hug might be for self-care and someone moving away to maintain a comfortable distance while talking to each other is also self-care. One can be part of a support system for people around them only if they know how to support oneself. The happiness one is willing to give someone is built on a foundation how to feel happy oneself. Self-care is neither optional nor luxury but essential to lead an ideal and purposeful life. Doing things for others when it is hurtful to me is a recipe for unacceptable social life. Pursuit of happiness is a right and one can establish the path for happiness only with self-care.