Relationship with younger person

If the age difference is too big, better to put an end to this.

 

Dear Nam,

I think what is happening here is that you have given too little information as a result a lot of the responders are making assumptions and giving their advice on what you should do. We don't really know the circumstances.

1. Friendships are valuable and not everyone is lucky to find good friends in their adulthood. So you and your friend are quite lucky. Do enjoy and experience what you have.

2. There are many responders who are saying beware, this is getting in to dangerous zone because one of you may be developing feelings for the other person and then there can a lot of hurt in the end. For this the only way is to clearly identify within yourself your *expectations* out of this interaction. Once you are clear, then be prepared whatever his side of the story may turn out to be.

If your wavelengths just happen to match - great. We all would love the companionship of a friend.

In case you feel there may be something more than friendship in the future (nothing wrong in my opinion), you should be prepared just in case he may not feel the same way. It would be hard to have a honest chat about that right now. If you are strong enough to deal with the consequence, then simply enjoy the present.

If you think you will not be able to handle the fact that he may suddenly not be there for you, or decides to have a relationship (with someone else) then it may be wiser to protect yourself starting from now.

Regards.