Reconcile with inlaws?

Hi,
I totally agree with Chocolate. ASG, you are a very smart girl. I really dont hear people saying "blissfully married" that often. So please please think well and enter into this saga.
Your FIL and MIL had their chance in life with your DH. Now its your turn, dont let them ruin it for you.

All the best.

 

In this case a nice greeting wishing him on the father's day is the best idea, IMO. Time it properly, there are some good couriers who pride themselves in giving birthday gifts on time. I used some of them to wish my wife while I was in US.

Why do we forget letters? They are a good one way communication to convey our feelings to others. Phone on the other hand makes you obliged to speak with others around, and not only to the person you wanted to have a chat with, in the first place.

An email is good, a hand written letter is better.

I also know that phone has its advantage (or disadvantage), you can simply say a few things like "how are you doing", "we are fine and happy here". But with a letter you need to go into a bit more detail which you may not be prepared.

I have experienced that a hand written letter goes a long way. Now and then, I myself, pull old letters written by my wife whenever I feel like being pampered by her (and when she may be sleeping or busy).

 

Dear ASG,

We cannot control anyone [ not even our hubby] but our own self. Let hubby call/mail his father. If he finds peace of mind by interacting with his father, let it be. If after interacting with his father he starts interacting with his mother [your MIL] too, you cannot do anything about this.

You stay out of all this. I mean, do not try to change the order of things-whatever has to happen will happen. Let hubby wish FIL in Father's day and then wait and watch the turn of events. You should react accordingly.

But do not go too far...trying to create a brotherhood of sorts...you may be disappointed.

I think that at the end, your hubby will do whatever he pleases. You cannot stop your hubby from interacting with anyone.

But make it clear to hubby -how far you are willing to go to please your In-laws. First, be clear about your boundaries.

Take things slowly.

Take Care,
NOW HAPPY

 

Congrats. You and your husband must be very happy.

 

Congrats ASG, you and your DH must be feeling content especially you as you are the reason that your DH and FIL spoke to eachother. I am sure your FIL was happy to know his son called to especially wish him after 6 month long NO talks. Just leave it at that, dont go back contacting them every week, that would lead your MIL to intervene in your lives her way pls...

Ofcourse, we dont want to see you miss the blissful moments you share with your DH now.

 

Good ASG. I would say the same that AD has said in her post. If I had replied couple of days back when you posted your question, I would have told "lady.. pls stay away and you dont have to be sweet, but smart". Now that it has all happened and hopefully ended well, leave it there and be happy with your DH. Your FIL or MIL or not even your DH is going to give you a "Best DIL" award for this act of yours. The fact that its your idea and your wish that the dad/son reestablish their relationship could all be gone in a trice if your MIL wishes so. Again sorry, i couldn't help a cynical note - my mom has been accusing me of turning very unfriendly lately :bonk. Wish i come back! take care ASG.