Quality Vs Quantity

For me quality is important...I usually have max 3-4 friends and also I make sure my wavelength matches with them. A very long time ago I tried going to all potlucks and always wants to initiate more talk with new ladies but I end up in zero friendship.

I am happy with 3 or 4 with whom I can have fun

 

NO!!! Really?

Still twinning Ri? I cannot believe this!! Between the three of us, if one has an issue and needs help the other two give a perspective that is exactly opposite to one another

 

IMO both are required in life. There is no commitment when you are in a large group, it's just fun time when you are with lots of friends. You need not deal with any of their behavioural issues, just go with the flow. You can enjoy life a bit more in large groups, simple meaningless giggles and laughter.

You cannot majorly depend on any of the friends in large groups when you have a problem in life. It is then, that quality friends matter, who can give us opinions, advices, suggestions, a shoulder to cry.

So best to keep both groups separate if you can, or handle carefully the friends who matter to you in the long run if they are in both groups.

 

In a movie late comedian NAGESH says “ when fruit is little (small) juice is more sweeter”.

In large group there is a tendency of one or more gossiping about the other that leads to polarise the group, and eventually that leads to feuds and fights and bickering.
Smaller the group, it is easy to manage that has better potential of emerging bosom friends.
one’s closeness to a small or large group may last for few days or months and rarely it will last for years.

I tend to open more buttons for few who am sure not Tom Tom my or my family secrets/ issues.
One not sure when another distant friend would turn a Samaritan in his or her life. So one got to be meticulous in continuing friendship and avoid making foes.

 

Yup its hard to maintain big gang unless we have consistently seeing them..also depends on our family style. My H doesn't go socially well with everyone and mw either..so we are happy what we have

 

I talk to a lot of people and have lot of acquaintances, because 2020 lockdown taught me that, it is good to know the names of my neighbors and say a hi and hello now and then.

Coming to friends, we have a group of ladies from different walks of lives and different regions of India which i find beautiful, however though i talk to everyone, i gel and connect with 1 or 2 and am happy about that.

I prefer quality over quantity any day, 1 or 2 wonderful friend with whom i can be myself and they can be themselves without the fear of being judged matters a lot to me.
Talking anything under the sun should not be an issue and every time i talk to my friends i learn something new and feel refreshed.

Sorry for the long post dear @anika987

Regards
Nandini