Hello all, I am a newly married girl and i am facing lot of troubles due to my husband. It was an arranged marriage and he is very rude and dominant in nature. I also feel he is very immatured sometimes . The problem with him is he never expresses love to me and when i ask about it he says there is nothing called love and it is only in movies. Sometimes he is ok to deal with but in some cases his anger is very high. He never treats me like a newly married girl. I left my job and got married too him and now he is pestering me to get a job . He talks as if i am fit for nothing. He complains that i am not beautiful , slim and good looking.(ppl say i am very good looking) and he doesnt feel like being intimate with me . If i enter into an argument he sometimes threatens me of divorce and again he cools down. on the other hand he says i am a very good girl and he could rarely find girls like me. His intimacy with me is very very low and i think he has some sexual issues . If i try to talk about it he will get very angry and will ignore me . For me sex is not a very big thing and only children are important . I wonder if i could get children with him .When i spoke with my parents about all this they told me to be patient and some guys will be like this in the beginning and later on they will change. I guess he is suffering from depression because he gets irritated with simple issues and he cannot comfortably mingle with new people. He looks very under confident to talk to new people. He got some speech issues as well. He will be silent and speaks very less with outside people but at home he scolds me very badly . Everything in the home should happen according to his wish. I can adjust to these issues but one things which makes me bad is the sexual intimacy. My parents said if there is an other girl in your place she might have changed him completely and made him to be good to her. They say that i am not able to deal with him and making everything a big issue.For every small reason he threatens of divorce and he calms down later. I dont know whats going on in his head . I personally think that he is showing his male chauvinism as i am completely dependent on him and as i dont have any alternative i have to obey him . He is very much money minded and he feels a person who earns money is very great and he/she can chose to live in a relationship .Due to his sexual problems i guess he is showing his frustration on me. To be honest i used to earn a lot before marriage and now also i can get a job . i got his depression transferred to me and i am unable to concentrate on job search these days . I am crying very badly in bathroom as i have no friends in this new place.Do you think i can ever have children with this guy ?? When the child topic comes he is very disinterested in that and tells me to concentrate on career.I come from a very conservative background and i dont want to leave him but on other hand i dont know how to handle him . I am tying for job also but still no luck . I dont know whether this is a testing period ? any girls with the same issues ? i wanted to lead a happy family life with kids and husband .what do you think i should do ??