I have a very sensitive issue on hand, not with in-laws but with parents...My sister is getting married soon and my parents are short on money. I am married and used to work, but now I am not..My mother asked me to loan some money to my father, for the wedding and initially i agreed, but now she comes back and asked me for ten thousand US $. My bank balance is just a little over that and I spoke to my husband about it. He's a nice person and lets me have my way in everything..He said to me, "its not upto me to decide, its your money, but you know that it is our emergency fund"...which is true. we just had a new baby boy and our expenses have doubled. I dont know what to do now.. My father will return the money, eventually but I dont know when. I feel kind of awkward as he can easily get a loan elsewhere, with no effort, but knowing I have some saved up money, they think it will be easy to get it from me.And he is not the kind of person who will keep his word..for my marriage itself, which happened 3 years ago, they still give me the "seeru varusai" , which they promised my in-laws.. They don't realise that somehow if my in-laws get to know of this, they will speak ill of them. I cant tell my parents no , either.. I don't know how to handle this issue. Moreover my mother is so irritating when it comes to money, she always insinuates that me and my husband are rich, when in fact we are not, and drops hints always saying that we are able to give them money when they need it. I am really irritated with her behaviour. And not only that she is a grandmother and can call her grandchild with so many lovely names, but she calls my son a really stupid name like "mini"..till now she has never called my son by name. I am very angry.Please advise.